Aptavani-9
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Questioner: One definitely has to have that. He cannot
do without it.
Dadashri: The husband should have commonsense, should
he not? If the wife makes a mistake, he starts fighting with her.
You fool, that mistake did not occur so that you could have a fight.
A man with commonsense is able to understand and settle
differences even with a street vendor. What kind of people get
into fights? A person who has no sense ruins things everywhere
he goes. Is there any benefit in fighting with someone without
knowing the facts; without knowing the circumstances that
caused the poor person to make a mistake?
Questioner: No it does not, it causes harm.
Dadashri: So those who do not have commonsense,
fight. And when they fight, that is the end. It brings an end to the
relationship between the two.
So decrease your ego to such an extent that you can get
along with everyone. Does the ego have threads that you can
turn or twist in order to reduce it? So is this something you do
with or without an understanding? There is no problem with the
ego that has understanding but what good is the ego that lacks
understanding?
Commonsense increases with a mixing
nature (to be social)
That is why I tell you that if you spend time with people,
if you get acquainted with them, it will create affection in their
hearts for you. When you discuss things you can pick up on
people’s experiences and in doing so, your commonsense will
increase. By mixing with people and moving around with them,
your commonsense will increase.
Questioner: You have said that one should live in
harmony with others, but I experience contempt and scorn in
such situations.