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is going to happen to the other person, will happen but suspicion
will destroy you in the process. Suspicion will not leave a person
until it destroys him. Do you think suspicion is healthy? With
suspicion, a person lives like a corpse.
Therefore, it is best not to be suspicious about anything;
it should be removed from its roots. Suspicion should also be
removed from worldly interactions. Avoid any interaction that
leads to the possibility of suspicion. Suspicion does not help; it
destroys a person. Certain words only cause harm. This word
risavu (being upset and non-communicative) is one such word.
If there is benefit and a loss, it is acceptable but there is only
harm in these words. It is better to get rid of them.
Intellect ruins the worldly life
Questioner: Why does a man with lot of buddhi
(intellect) have more suspicion?
Dadashri: He can see all the phases through his intellect.
He can see, ‘it must be this way, this is how he must have put
his arm around her etc.’ If some man were to put his arm around
his wife, that would give rise to suspicions of all kind and all the
phases (paryaya) of, ‘what must be going on?’ And that chain
of phases initiated by the intellect will continue, whereas an
abuddha person i.e. a person without excess buddhi (intellect)
will not be concerned with it much. Actually, such a person is
not truly abuddha i.e. he is not truly without intellect. The Gnani
has gone beyond the intellect; he has enough intellect to run his
daily life. He does not have any other unnecessary intellect
with its other complications. Something will happen within and
then it will stop. He will use whatever intellect is necessary and
then stop.
Questioner: So are you talking about those who lack
worldly intelligence; those whose intellect has not developed
yet?