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Aptavani-9
Dadashri: No, good intellect will get rid of deceit and
betrayal; it will maintain a safe-side. On the one hand, suspicion
kills a person, then deceit and betrayal is inevitable, and
everyone is caught up indulging in their worldly ‘happiness’.
Questioner: But to remain in such happiness, does one
not use deceit and betrayal with the help of the intellect?
Dadashri: There is no presence of good buddhi
(intellect) when one is looking for his own happiness. Good
buddhi looks for everyone’s collective happiness in the home.
But here, the son looks for his own happiness, the wife looks for
her own happiness, the daughter looks for her own happiness,
the father looks for his own happiness and so everyone looks
for his or her own happiness. If these facts were exposed, then
no family members would live with each other. But they all eat,
drink and live together, so it is best left covered.
There is absolutely no need to be suspicious in any
situation. Suspicion verily destroys a person. Everyone is dying
because of his or her suspicions. The mightiest ‘ghost’ in this
world is that of suspicion. The best of people have been
destroyed by it; therefore do not let suspicion arise in the first
place. Destroy it the moment it arises. Do not let it grow.
Otherwise it will not let you live peacefully. Suspicion has killed
and destroyed even the greatest of men like the powerful
Chakravarti emperors.
The dangers are grave
Even if people tell you, ‘this man is worthless’, you should
call him worthy because at times he may not be worthless and
if you call him worthless, you will incur a tremendous liability. If
a woman is chaste and virtuous, it is a terrible sin to call her a
prostitute. You incur such a liability that you will have to pay for
it for many lives to come. Therefore, do not say anything that
will violate someone’s character because what if it is not true?
What is your own worth if you say things about someone