Aptavani-9
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Questioner: Is insisting on the truth (satyagraha), a
tragu?
Dadashri: That is one kind of a mild tragu for sure, but
for that one can use words or terms that are more ornamental
and suitable. People use the ornamental word ‘satyagraha’.
But as far as a tragu (manipulative tantrum) is concerned, no
one will call it satyagraha, will they?
In short, a tragu means to force others into doing what
you want when they are not willing to do so. One resorts to
tragu in order to scare and manipulate others into ultimately
doing what he wants. He will invoke fear in others, he invokes
fear by doing something one way or another; he resorts to
emotional blackmail in this manipulative behavior to attain his
calculated desired end.
Questioner: He will make one do what he wants,
through using his charm, money, and punishment, even the fear
of separation.
Dadashri: Yes, but he will not stop until he has his way;
that is a tragu. I had witnessed such tragu several times but I
paid my respect from afar, ‘Hey! Tragu may I never see you
and the doer of the tragu, let me not see your face ever.’ Tragu
is a learnt behavior. One will even find a guru to teach him.
Tragu is not something one can learn on his own.
Questioner: So if a person insists on doing things his
way, is that called tragu?
Dadashri: Insistence is not tragu but to scare others into
doing what one wants, that is tragu. Don’t some people scare
others by saying, ‘…or else I will commit suicide’ or ‘I’ll do
this’ or ‘I’ll do that’?
Questioner: They threaten, they charm, and they incite
pity or punishment; they do whatever it takes.
Dadashri: Yes, they resort to every trick. And what do