Aptavani-9 37
Dadashri: All this is nothing but obstinacy on the path to moksha and that is why the worldly life continues to perpetuate; that is why people cannot attain moksha. Otherwise, your liberation is at hand right here only! Obstinacy is the wall of obstruction to liberation. The obstinacy is still there; a bundle of sheer obstinacy; that is what he is! He will do only what he wants to.
That is called tragu- manipulative tantrum
Questioner: Is making another person do what you want, considered part of obstinacy( aadayee)?
Dadashri: Then what else? If it is not obstinacy( aadayee) than what is it? One gets his way through becoming upset and noncompliant. If not then ultimately through a manipulative tantrum( tragu) one will have his or her way. One may even end up throwing a tragu to have his own way. Have you ever seen a tragu? You will get a fever if you saw one. If someone does a tragu, your temperature will rise three degrees even if you do not have a fever!
Questioner: What is a tragu?
Dadashri: Tragu means a person does whatever is necessary to scare you into accepting his or her own way. That person will do anything to make you accept his will. He will bang his head on the wall, hit this or that part on the wall, jump around, cry loudly, wail, throw a tantrum etc. That which completely scares us from all angles is a tragu.
Questioner: What is the difference between doing a tragu and pretending?
Dadashri: Whether one is pretending or throwing a manipulative tantrum( tragu), he is doing it in order to get his own way.
If everyone is sitting down for dinner and one person says,‘ I am not going to eat’- he is an important person in the