Aptavani-9
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Only the ‘one’ who reacts sees the one who
is upset and non-communicative.
One man told me, ‘My wife repeatedly becomes very
upset and non-communicative (risavu) with me and will not
speak to me.’ I told him, ‘Who is the one saying ‘she is upset
and non-communicative’?’ It is not ‘You’. It is the risad within
you, i.e. the ‘one’ who is inclined to become upset and non-
communicative that is saying ‘she is upset and non-communicative’;
who is that? It is the ‘one who is the risad’ himself that is
complaining. It is not You. So ‘You’ should ‘know’ (janvoo)
that the ‘one who has reacted and become upset (risad)’ is
seeing all this. The one who is apt to become upset and non-
communicative (risad) is the one seeing the other person who is
upset and non-communicative. The Self ‘sees’ only the Self. It
does not see any other circumstance. Aggravated people see the
one who is aggravated. So I told the man, ‘It was the wife who
was upset and non-communicative, it is not her Self (the Soul
within). She is a woman. And the one who has become upset
in reaction (risad) is not your Self (Atma). Who is the wife upset
and non-communicative (risavu) with? You simply have to ‘see’
that she is upset and non-communicative towards the one who
is himself apt to be sulking (risad). You simply have to see that!
You simply have to keep ‘seeing’.
This can bring a solution, can it not? How can you solve
it otherwise? Some continue becoming upset and non-
communicative (risavu) and others keep cursing. That is how it
is. But the Soul is separate from all these phases; the Soul is not
to be found in any of this. What is the basis on which everything
is taking place? Everything occurs based on each individual’s
karma. A person keeps receiving the fruits of his karma, what
do ‘we’ have to do with that? Each person is enjoying the fruits
of his karma, what do ‘we’ have to do with them? That is how
this is. If you want to attain the Self, then keep seeing the Self
in others, and nothing else is worth seeing.