Aptavani-6
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Dadashri: That happens to one with lot of merit karma
(punyashadi); his wife will always remain obedient to him! She
will not have anything of her own, she will not have any opinions
of her own; she will always remain surrendered.
What it is, is that I have given this Gnan to worldly people;
to married couples. I have not told anyone to become ascetics
and renounce everything. But I have asked them to settle whatever
‘files’ they have, with equanimity. I have told them to do
pratikraman. I have shown them these two ultimate solutions.
If You ‘do’ these two things, then no one can create any
entanglement in your life. You could never stand on the shoreline
if ‘we’ had not shown you these two solutions, could you?
Danger lies at the shore because the ocean of the world can
drown you easily.
When you had inner separation due to differences of opinion
with your wife (matbhed), did attachment or abhorrence (raag
or dwesh) occur at that time?
Questioner: They both occur one after another. Raag
occurs when everything is suitable with us, and if we are at odds
with each other, then dwesh occurs.
Dadashri: Therefore, all this is dependent on raag-dwesh.
Opinions do not become one, do they? Only rare is the one who
is fortunate with merit karma (punyashadi) whose wife will tell
him, ‘I will remain subservient to you. Wherever you go, even
to your funeral pyre, I will remain subservient to you.’ But that
is rare. Therefore, there is no fun in this worldly life. You do not
want to start a new worldly life all over again. You want to go
to moksha now. Somehow or other, You need to settle all the
profit-loss accounts of karma, wind everything up and bring
about a final solution (ukel) to this.
This truly is the path of moksha. This Gnan is such that
no one, at any given time, can ever touch You. But if You