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not your mistake; the mistake is mine because why did I speak
in a way as to cause a matbhed? So one has to see how he can
adjust to the world. You may be looking out for the good of the
other person, for example, in the hospital you are there only for
the good of the patient and so you continue to pester him, ‘Do
this, don’t do that.’ But the patient gets tired of it and thinks,
‘What is all this hassle about?’
So support that which gets the task accomplished. If one
thing does not work, then try something else. And if that does
not work either, try something else. The aim is to get things
accomplished.
The Root Cause of Separation Due to
Differences in Opinion (Matbhed)
We all have to learn to live in a way that does not cause
any separation due to differences in opinion (matbhed). If any
matbhed occurs, it is verily your own mistake; it is your own
weakness for sure. The other person must find closure and inner
satisfaction (samadhan) from you. The responsibility for the
other person’s samadhan lies with you.
What would you think if the other person does not attain
samadhan through you? Would you not think that he lacks
understanding?
Questioner: Yes.
Dadashri: If you run into a problem, change your approach
so that he has no problem accepting, and that is how you get
your work done. If you are an understanding person, then you
will change your approach and find closure and inner satisfaction
(samadhan) for him. You are not an understanding person if you
do not change. The other person will not change. That is why
I never change anyone. I tell him, ‘I will change, my friend’. You
have to maintain an amicable environment.
At 11 o’clock, you come and tell me, ‘You will have to