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the business. What do you think?
Questioner: That is right.
Dadashri: ‘We’ are here to clarify things and not to
make you agree with us.
Questioner: If deceit (kapat) is being employed at home,
or outside, then language that scares and petrifies has to be
used, is that not so?
Dadashri: If your threats stop others from being deceitful,
then go ahead and do so. But what is the point in scaring them
if deceit remains forever? You should be thrown in jail for scaring
them when you do not know how to scare them. Why do you
do it?
Questioner: What should I do if I am not to threaten
them?
Dadashri: You have to see how they can improve.
Questioner: It is natural to get angry with someone who
is being deceitful towards us, is it not?
Dadashri: If the other person’s deceit leaves by you
getting angry at him five times, then it is all right; and if it does
not, then you are to be thrown in jail. He is not getting cured
with this medicine and, on the contrary, you are killing him by
making him drink such medicine!
Questioner: What should we do if that person continues
to do the same thing?
Dadashri: Your approach is harmful. This is not the way
to do it. It is one kind of egoism. To believe, ‘I can improve him
this way or that way,’ is egoism. What ‘we’ are trying to convey
is that you should be the one to improve first. You are the only
one who is spoiled. He is already improved. The way you are
harassing all these people by frightening them is not becoming of
you.