If you want to improve someone, then no matter how
much pain he inflicts upon you, if you do not let a single negative
thought about him cross your mind, he will be improved for sure.
This is the only way; improve the self and as a result the other
person improves!
If you tell someone, ‘This is your fault,’ directly to him, he
will not accept it and, on the contrary, he will cover up his fault.
If you tell someone, ‘You should do it this way,’ he will do just
the opposite. Instead, if you say it in the following manner,
‘What benefit will you gain in doing it that way?’ he will stop.
Who will accompany you on the funeral pyre? Which
bubble in the flowing water do you hold onto? Who stays with
whom?
One is not even aware whether the thing over which he
clashes is his own or another’s. Am I the one doing all this or
is someone else making me do it? There should be no clash
whatsoever, even at the cost of the physical body! The moment
the inner intent spoils, the moment there is dislike within or the
slightest rising of the eyebrow, conflict will start. Others may
clash with us but when we decide not to clash with anyone,
then despite circumstances of potential clash, we can avoid
clash and, in addition, our ‘common sense’ will develop;
otherwise, because of the lack of awareness, the infinite energy
of the Self will be smothered and covered up during that clash.
How can anyone who wants ‘safety’ in the world, and also
wants to complete the path to ultimate liberation, give any
‘scope’ to clash?
If, at some point in time, one has heard the Gnan through
which the Gnanis have won over the world, then that knowledge
will be helpful. In the end, one has to win over the world!
Only when everyone in this world likes us will success be
attained. Whose fault is it if the world does not like us? If others
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