Aptavani-5
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Questioner: No.
Dadashri: If you do not like it, why don’t you ask Me
about how you can get rid of it?
Questioner: A person can find a solution for it himself.
Dadashri: One can only find a solution up to a certain
point.
Dependency increases as one gets older and at the time
of death there is no end to dependency, the need to take help
from others. In the old age your teeth will bother you, the body
will bother you, the children will bother you, and your brothers
will bother you. Your children will tell you, ‘Just sit there and do
not talk too much.’ How many such dependencies?
Questioner: Does dependency and worries not go hand
in hand?
Dadashri: Worrying is an above normal egoism and
dependency is helplessness. Worrying occurs when the ego
becomes above normal but not otherwise. Who cannot fall
asleep in his home? It is the one who has greater egoism.
Questioner: In this matter I am not able to cope and so
I worry, so is the next step dependency?
Dadashri: That dependency is something that we have
created ourselves. There is one dependency, which arises on its
own and that is one associated with old age. Worry and
dependency have nothing to do with each other.
When something goes wrong, then worries will occur.
Worries occur depending on the outcome of circumstances
whereas dependency is sheer helplessness (lachari). The
world does not like dependency; dependency is weakness
(nirbadata). Dependency will go away when weakness goes
away. As long as weakness is present, dependency will not go
away because if we hurt others, they will hurt us back. When