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Aptavani-4
You should not have suspicion (shanka) towards anyone.
Suspicion is the result of opinions that have been formed.
Why do boys wear their hair long these days? In their
opinion they look good with long hair. And what if you ask this
young man to grow his hair long? He will think that it looks bad
on him. This is just a collection of opinions. Opinions are
dependent on the intellect’s whims. Opinions are the result of
where the intellect (buddhi) believes happiness lies. They
depend upon what the person has brought forth in the receptacle
of intellect (buddhi no ashaya) from his past life.
If someone has deceived you, you should not keep
recalling it. Just look at what that person is doing today;
otherwise, it would be considered prejudice. To remember the
past, is very detrimental.
Questioner: But shouldn’t we keep it in mind (dhyan)?
Dadashri: That will happen anyway. If you keep it in
awareness (dhyan), then it becomes a prejudice. The prejudices
will ruin your worldly life (sansar) once again. You should
remain vitarag (free from attachment). You will naturally be
aware of the past; nevertheless, it is not a helpful thing. It was
because of the way your karma was unfolding, that he
behaved the way he did towards you. If your karma is good,
he will behave well towards you. Therefore, do not have
prejudice. How are you to know, if the person who cheated
you before, has come today to bring you a profit? It is up to
you if you want to deal with him or not, but you should not
have any prejudice! However, when the time comes, where
you have to deal with him, do not have any prejudice against
him.
Questioner: Does having opinion destroy vitaragata
(state of absolute detachment)?
Dadashri: Yes, you should not have opinions. Opinion