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good and that is bad,” based on what other people say. Then
the intellect (buddhi) makes a decision and it starts working.
Through Gnani’s influence (Gnani’s sangnya), worldly influence
(loksangnya) is eliminated and you are liberated from those
opinions.
If you have even the slightest positive or negative thought
about someone, you should erase it immediately. If that thought
lingers on for even a moment, it will reach the other person, and
then it will proliferate. The thought will grow inside the other
person, within four hours, twelve hours or even after two days.
Therefore, these vibrations should not drift in that direction.
Questioner: What can we do about that?
Dadashri: You should erase it immediately through
pratikraman. If you cannot do pratikraman, then remember
‘Dada’ or whomever your God may be and briefly say, “These
thoughts that I am having are not right; they are not my
thoughts.”
When your opinion about the other person breaks, you
will be able to happily talk to him and that will also make him
happy. But when you perceive him through your opinion, you
see his faults, then your mind casts its shadow on his mind. So
when he approaches you or comes to your house, you do not
like it and that picture instantly gets imprinted within him.
What does one have to do to change one’s opinion? If a
person is a thief, in your mind you should keep saying, “He is
an honest man, he is an honest man.” Say to yourself, ‘he is a
good man, he is a pure Soul (Shuddhatma), and I have a wrong
opinion about him’. This is how you should turn it around from
within.
Spoken words are ruined because of opinions, and that is
why they are harsh. When you express harsh words, the other
person will also use harsh words towards you.