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Aptavani-2
Vyavahar means there is nothing left over, no carry
forward for another life; no remainders after division, no pending
karmic account. In all this, if one wants to go to moksha then
he should do pratikraman immediately.
Do you sometimes say things even when you do not want
to? It happens because such is the vyavahar with the other
person and based on that vyavahar you end up saying things
against your will. Just think about this point that sometimes even
when a person is harming you, you will not say anything to him,
but you will speak harsh words to someone who has done
nothing to hurt you. Why is that so? It happens because it is
dependent on the vyavahar (interaction) with that person.
With whatever vyavahar the account was created or
wound in the past life, with such a vyavahar it will unfold
(unwind) in this life. When you ask me, “Dada why do you not
tell me off when I make mistakes?”, ‘we’ will tell you, “You have
not brought such a vyavahar with us. ‘We’ have already alerted
you and cautioned you based on whatever extra vyavahar you
had brought with you. You did not bring any more vyavahar than
that.” Gnani Purush never has harsh speech and if His speech
comes out harshly for others, ‘we’ do not like it. And despite
this if ‘we’ ever speak harshly, ‘we’ immediately realize that
such is the vyavahar ‘we’ have brought with that person. The
words that come out are in accordance with the vyavahar of the
person one is dealing with. The speech of the Gnani Purush is
nimit-dependent. The speech of the vitarag, or the Gnani who has
no ambitions, no desires, no raag-dwesh, is nimit dependent. The
speech of the Gnani can never be hurtful to others. The Gnani
Purush does not have the time to insult anyone. Nevertheless,
someone with tremendous punyas will have the rare occasion to
be scolded by the Gnani. This person’s vyavahar is such that in
order to rid him of his ‘disease’, the Gnani has to speak to him
in a harsh manner. Otherwise, why would ‘we’ do so? The
Gnani gives liberation in just one hour, why would he have a