not express the anger. We don’t
want others to think negatively of
us. We’re taught anger is a bad
thing, or that we’re a bad person
somehow for being angry. That
is just not true.
But in order to keep anger in
its proper place, I have to first
remember that my anger is only
the response to the primary
emotion. If I can recall what the
original emotion is, I can assess
where the anger initially came
from. Only then can I begin to
understand why I feel angry. If
I’m able to look at the situation
objectively, I may come to the
conclusion that I didn’t need to
get angry in the first place. This
is where we begin to mature as
Christians, by becoming more
self-aware. We understand that
while our emotions are valid, we
are not to live by them and allow
them to dictate our actions, and
hinder our emotional well-being.
Please hear me, it is absolutely
essential that we learn to let go of
the anger issues that plague our
bodies, minds, and our spirits. It
is impossible to walk in victory
and live with anger. They cancel
each other out. Choosing to live
with unresolved anger means
choosing the circumstances
that may come with it – the
mental stress, and the physical
discomfort and pain as well. If the
matter is left unresolved, there’s
the risk of alienating yourself
from loved ones, and damaging
personal relationships in the
long-term. Inward anger must be
sought out and destroyed before
it destroys you.
We
have
seen
the
consequences of living with
inward anger. There are physical
(body), psychological/emotional
(mind), and spiritual (spirit)
consequences. We understand
that not everyone living with
illness or a disorder is harboring
anger issues. However, if you
are chronically suffering in your
body, mind or spirit, perhaps
you should take a moment
to personally reflect and see
if anything mentioned here
applies to you. We’re not talking
about an ordinary headache, or
occasional slip of the tongue.
We’re talking about an ongoing
issue that stays with you.
If your friends and loved ones
are always reminding you
that you have a sharp tongue,
it’s time to swallow pride and
listen. Or even worse, if you’re
alienating everyone around
you, and spending a lot of time
isolated from family and friends,
please pay attention. If you are
constantly self-medicating in
some way to relieve symptoms
so you can function, or maybe
you’re barely functioning at all,