weeks, and I was so grateful.
So what did I learn? What is the point to this story?
I learned that my anger was a symptom of my
inability to deal with my self-created stress. I
should have taken up multiple offers of help, and
should have cast my cares aside. I took on those
cares, and reaped the result of the seeds I had
sown.
Sometimes anger results out of things that we
suppress- that we choose not to deal with- and
we don’t recognize it at the time. We think that
we are dealing with things only to discover that
they are being tossed aside. They never go away
because we aren’t facing the root cause of why we
are angry to begin with. If we never deal with the
cause, then it takes root causing all kinds of issues
from angry outbursts, to physical manifestations.
What is even worse is that we often lie to ourselves.
We pretend that we are dealing with challenges
when in reality we are not. We suppress our angry
emotions because it seems so “unchristian” to
express ourselves when faced with situations that
appear to be unjust. We fail to acknowledge that
we are, indeed, angry because we are told that
we shouldn’t be. The truth is we can be angry
with injustice. We can say that we feel angry if we
are being honest to ourselves, and
others. However, we sin when we
stay there, and allow it to affect our
behavior. We can say to someone “I
was offended/angry when you did/
said/implied …..” and talk it through
to reach both an understanding
and a resolution. If it is just to vent,
manipulate, verbally abuse, etc
it should be left for a time when
your emotions aren’t clouding
your thoughts. When we are this
emotionally charged nothing good
comes out of it.
Finally, we should learn from our
mistakes, analyze the situation,
and figure out what should have
been done differently that should
we find ourselves in the same
situation, we are able to handle
things differently. In my case, I
should have accepted help and
designated more. I should have
admitted to my husband/children
that I was feeling overwhelmed
because of all the business in my life instead of
taking my frustration out on them. They would
have been more understanding and willing to help
out because they would have known that it was
to help me. We would have been working as a
team instead of individually. By being open and
identifying the root cause, perhaps my husband
could have made suggestions, or honestly told
me that I was taking on too much. At the very
least he would have been there for support and
encouragement which would have lifted the
burden. We could have also prayed together and
over the situation. I wouldn’t have had to face
the facial numbness, the sleepless nights, or the
wondering if when I talked my face was actually
moving. It sure didn’t feel like it! *laughing*
Always remember that no matter how overwhelmed
you feel, stressed out, or burdened that you take
it to God. He is able to move in any situation and
make the impossible, possible. Too often we
do things on our own strength and we struggle
needlessly. God said His yoke is easy, and His
burden light. So why would we choose to hang
on to things that we aren’t supposed to? Why do
we choose to struggle when the answer is just a
prayer away?