Akram Youth Right Understanding | March 2015 | Akram Youth | Page 8

Gnani's Scientific Solution OB M S OL U ON TI PR Questioner: We have a lot many responsibilities in our lives and it is our duty to fulfill them. In the process of carrying out these responsibilities, occasionally some harsh words have to be used. Is that considered a sin? Dadashri: What are the emotions mirrored on your face when you utter these words? Are they pleasant like a beautiful rose? If there is disgust on your face, understand that you have committed a sin. So whatever you have to say, do so calmly with poise and without using bitter words. Speak calmly with love and understanding, using only a few words and one day you will win him over. If you use harsh words, he will want to enter into confrontation and you will bind negative karmas. He too will bind negative karmas and think, 'you can abuse me while I am young, but you wait till I grow up. I shall see you then'. So do not do such a thing. Instead make him understand. Love and compassion will win one day. You might not reap its rewards immediately so continue showering your love for some time and then see its results. Questioner: What should we do if he does not understand even after we have put in our best efforts? Dadashri: Just shower your love on him. At the same time you should also gently try to make him understand 08 | March 2015 LE Love Can Conquer All: Questioner: What should be done if our suggestions to help correct someone's mistake results in that person feeling hurt? How should one resolve the issue? Dadashri: There is no problem in guiding him. But you should know how to do it. Questioner: How should I guide him? Dadashri: If you tell him, 'Stupid fellow, you are just like a donkey' won't he feel offended? Doesn't he have self respect too? If your boss were to tell you the same words at work, how would you feel? Therefore avoid using such foul language. You only have to guide him. Questioner: How should I do it? Dadashri: Sit with him and tell him gently that civilized and respectable people do not do such things. You should talk to him gently and lovingly. Instead, what you do is beat him and scold him. How can this be acceptable? Without love there can be no solution. In fact, even when you grow a plant, you have to nurture it with love. Merely pouring water over it will not suffice.