Akram Youth Memory Power | March 2016 | Akram Youth | Page 16

Gnani with Youth
Questioner: I am unable to forget some incidents of my life. Is it because we all friends are
continuously staying together?
Pujyashri: This is simple. To remove the postage stamp from the letter, you don’t have to pull
out the stamp, but dilute the gum. When the gum will melt, the stamp will fall off. Instead of
laboring for removing the postage stamp, you should work to dissolve the gum between the
letter and the stamp.
We come across a crook because there is some fault within us. Why did a particular
circumstance happen? That’s because some fault was already within me and through this
‘nimitt’ (circumstantial evidence) it was brought out!
This is science. My attachments and abhorrence constitute the ‘gum’. Again take the
example of the letter and postage-stamp, it is all because of the gum. Someone will say,
“Remove the stamp, pull it out.” If the stamp has not been cancelled by the post office
rubber stamp, someone will find out ways to slowly pull it off from the letter by steaming it
or by soaking it in water, dissolving the gum and removing it. See here, how they understand
that, not to pull the stamp but dissolve the gum. Similarly, in case of settlement of your
karmic accounts, for the attachments and abhorrence with persons in your life, it is not the
fault of the individual but because of our own attachments and abhorrence we are attached
to them. Once we are free from our attachments and abhorrence then it will get dissolved in
its own time. Till then, through spiritual awareness, find out where you have attachment and
where do you feel attracted.
Why did this particular person come to your mind? Why do you dislike a person? Why
do you feel attachment for someone? Why do you like some person? Very minutely you have
to disconnect all the wires with these people and
free yourself from the bondage. You don’t have to
move these people away, neither forsake them
nor cling on to them. Only disconnect the ‘hook’
from within. As you have to only dissolve the
‘gum’ between the envelope and the postage
stamp, in the same way, in case of people, your
attachment or abhorrence (raag-dwesh) is the
‘gum’. So don’t remove the person, or try to
improve the person, or expect him to change.
Only dissolve your own ‘raag-dwesh’ towards
him. For doing so, ‘Pratikraman’ is the best
medicine!

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