Aged Care Insite Issue 118 | Apr-May 2020 | Page 24

practical living Looking back The biography service helping palliative patients leave a legacy. By Conor Burke N orm wasn’t having a bar of it. Talk to a stranger about his life? No way. What did he want to tell someone all of his secrets for? “My life is very boring,” he told his wife of 25 years, Christine. Undeterred, Christine sought the help of the volunteers at palliative care services in Mount Druitt Hospital, NSW, and they organised a meeting with a biographer anyway. “When the gentleman arrived, he introduced himself, and Norm is sitting in a chair, and he said, ‘And what do you do?’ “The man said, ‘I’m Don. I’m here to write your biography,’ and Norm says, ‘No, you’re not.’ And he just went off, and he was adamant,” Christine remembers. Norm was a stubborn man. She tells me his ‘no’, normally, meant ‘no’. 22 agedcareinsite.com.au “I said, ‘Well, I’ll leave you to it,’ and left the room,” she says. “About 10 minutes later I came back, and Norm’s lying in his recliner, Don’s sitting on a chair in front of him, there’s a dictaphone on Norm’s lap, and they’re both chatting and laughing. “Don stayed for about an hour, and after he left, Norm said, ‘Oh, I forgot to tell him this and this.’ I said, ‘Well, write it down.’ And he couldn’t wait for Don to come back a week later.” Don is Don Stewart, a former nurse in mental health and now a volunteer biographer. He remembers that first meeting with Norm much the same way – in what was only his second biography experience. “I was anxious because, well, I’m anxious every time I meet a new person because you do not know how it’s going to go,” he tells me. “And then Norm says, ‘I don’t want to do this. No, no, no.’ I thought, oh well, this is going to go nowhere. But I just stayed there talking to him for about 10 minutes and all of a sudden the story started – and six sessions later we had a book,” he says with a chuckle. Family “I was born in Mitchelton on the 2nd of September 1931 to Dorothy Maude and Albert Victor Green. I was one of 11 – six boys and five girls. The oldest was Nancy, then Iris, Albert (Digger), Dorothy, Ivy, Ronnie, Gordon and then me. So, I would be eighth down. They had Roy, Carol and Noel after me.” The Western Sydney Local Health District (WSLHD) biography service is based on a similar program that runs at St Vincent’s Hospital, also in Sydney, and the project was driven by Kylie Clark, volunteer manager of the district’s Supportive and Palliative Care Services. “I worked in a nursing home,” Clark says. “It was one of my first jobs, and ever since