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Sexual difficulties
Men who are heavy drinkers have more
sexual problems than men who are not.
This is because of the effects of alcohol,
which, in Shakespeare’s words, “provokes
the desire but takes away the performance”.
Some men and women drink because of
sexual difficulties. Drinking makes these
difficulties worse.
Sexual problems can be remedied. The
guidelines are simple. One way to overcome
them is to ensure that a sexual relationship
is based on a warm and open emotional
relationship. The key is communication. Talk
about your sexual worries and problems with
your partner. Discuss what you like and don’t
like. This might be difficult and embarrassing
at first, but if you can get there the rewards
will be promising.
Often, sexual impotence in a man begins
when he fails to get an erection when
drunk. This may make him anxious about
his performance and this anxiety affects
his performance even more. If, on top of
all this, his partner is resentful because he
has drunkenly and insensitively had sex
without showing affection, that anger may
make him feel even more insecure. This can
result in impotence becoming long term.
Such impotence may be remedied, although
specialist help may be necessary.
The key elements to overcoming these
problems are stopping your drinking,
showing affection, communicating, and
enjoying sexual preparation and foreplay
without bothering too much about the result.
If you can do this, there’s a good chance the
problems will disappear.
These pointers apply to sexual problems
in women as well. If you have any doubts,
discuss them with your doctor.
Insomnia
Some people use alcohol to help them
to sleep, although the sleep is not restful.
Heavy drinking causes sleep problems,
and it takes a while to return to a normal
sleeping pattern once drinking has stopped.
Many of the methods for dealing with anxiety
may be used for insomnia. As with sexual
problems, worries about performance often
inhibit the performance itself. Wait until you
are tired before going to bed, even if this is
two or three o’clock in the morning. Some
people only need four or five hours’ sleep
while some need nine or ten. Maybe you’re
trying to sleep more than you need to. Get up
and read, or watch TV if you can’t sleep. If you
still have problems, see your doctor.