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* Avoid his friends
* No emails
It’s not easy. This is a man that you spent months, possibly years with. You are used to
communicating with him and sharing your thoughts and desires with him. You want to
be near him and to communicate with him.
But if you do, you’re giving into that addiction and everything else in this guide will be
that much harder.
Accept the End
Here’s another big one.
When he says “I want to break up” you need to accept it.
A study conducted by researchers at the University of Arizona is a perfect example of
this.
The study was designed to show how journaling and emotional expression can help in
dealing with a breakup to varying degrees. Of course, that’s not what happened.
In fact, those who journaled and spent a lot of time thinking about the breakup and
trying to justify it fared the worst in terms of recovery.
The ones who fared best were the ones who simply went about their daily lives,
processed the emotions naturally and moved on, accepting what happened.
It’s a pretty simple concept - when you focus on everything that lead to or resulted in a
breakup, you don’t allow yourself to accept what happened and you dwell on it. It’s not
avoidance - it’s life. You have to live it to process the experiences that made it most
painful.
How you respond to a painful experience will affect how you view the situation later.
When you accept the breakup, you will ultimately accept the breakup, not just with
words but with actions.
At the same time, if you DON’T accept the breakup, it will create tension that makes him
uncomfortable and makes you appear needy.
What do you think will go through his mind if, after he breaks up with you, your first
response “okay, I agree and hope we can be friends”.
He’ll wonder what’s up. It will linger and when you start to make major changes in your
life, he’s going to notice that much faster.
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