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Dating has that effect on us and it’s a good thing. It forces you to think about what YOU
want out of a man and what you can bring to that relationship.
More importantly, it separates you from the idea that you NEED any one man. There
are some really great men out there, all of whom would die to be with you.
Don’t believe me? Go on a couple of dates, be your relaxed, engaging self and just try
to tell them no when they want a second date...
It’s not easy.
By going on dates, even when you are still in love with your Ex, you teach your mind to
think of a relationship as a symbiotic thing.
Here’s a story I’ve been sharing for YEARS about a woman I knew in college. It’s one of
those stories that jumps out at you, not because it’s amazing, but because it’s so
representative of what EVERY woman goes through during a breakup.
My friend’s name is Eva and she had been dating the same guy for eight years...in
college. Meaning they had been together since freshman year of high school.
We tend to romanticize these kinds of relationships - talk about them like they are
“meant to be” and while sometimes that is true, it’s rarely that simple.
Imagine the raw emotion you felt when you were 14 years old. How much you thought
you loved that boy. How much you felt like your life was over when you broke up. How
much it all hurt, even when you had NO IDEA what was going on.
Now, take that raw emotion and amplify it over eight years through three phases of
development and you had Eva the night she burst into my dorm room bawling because
her boyfriend, Steve, had just broken up with her.
The two had gone to the same college together and were only a few months from
graduation, so it was a shock. It wasn’t a typical “college growth” breakup. He’d simply
started to change as a person and told her he thought their relationship hadn’t changed
with him.
I could go on at length about the “deep” revelations of a 22 year old man who has
“changed”, but the truth was that he didn’t feel raw emotion the same way Eva did and it
broke her heart.
We gave her all the normal post-breakup advice. Get out, have fun with your friends,
stop looking at those old photos. She was calling him obsessively too and while he had
asked to remain friends, it became clear soon enough that he preferred to move on. He
stopped returning her calls and it just got worse.
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