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FAMILY AFFAIR Julie Leavitt Wolfe wrote a book about a brother dealing with the experiences of having a sibling with special needs that was based on her own children, Ryan and Sydney. “Wherever I was, I wanted to be in the other place,” she says. “If I was with Ryan, I wanted to be with Sydney, and if I was with Sydney, I wanted to be with Ryan.” Sydney, now age 7, attends The Children’s Therapy Center in Fair Lawn and “is always happy and smiling, and everyone knows her,” Wolfe says. “She has made a tremendous amount of progress and has already accomplished so much more than ever expected.” Sydney can now walk with assistance and speak some words. In addition to school, Wolfe takes Sydney for additional speech, occupational and physical therapy. Ryan, now age 11, plays “every sport imaginable,” which is logistically challenging, given Sydney’s schedule, says Wolfe, who is still upbeat and positive. She notes that Sydney’s unusual schedule actually affords her more alone time with Ryan. “Everything takes a lot out of Sydney. She usually goes to sleep around 3:30 to 4:00 in the afternoon after school and wakes up around 4:30 the next day. I get evenings with Ryan.” Things have gotten easier, and Ryan has grown into his role, expressing concern for his sister and offering to help his mother. Wolfe hopes that My Holly will be used as a parenting tool and will be > SPECIAL PARENT | 2017 EDITION 19