Zenspiration Magazine January Issue | Page 83

Single is not a status, it is a word that describes a person who is strong enough to live and enjoy life without depending on others “So are you married or have a partner?” this is the question that seems to come up almost instantly when meeting someone new. If you are single then you probably cringe answering the question because you know you will either get: The shoulder shrug = “Poor thing, while whispering to a friend ‘obviously she’s a psycho’ or ‘obviously he cheated on his last partner’” The gentle head shake = “Single, she just can’t keep a man, aww, poor thing” or “single, then he must be a douche” The raised eyebrow = “She must be a lesbian.” “Maybe he is gay” The head tilt: = “Ohhhh, don’t worry Mr Right is out there somewhere” or “Miss right is out there, it will happen when it is meant to be” Gone are the days when being single meant that you must be broken, worn down and heartbroken. Not today – there is a new breed of singles taking over, and they are exuding strength, confidence and positivity. In fact singledom is on the rise, and it is increasingly by choice. Singledom superstar Helen Croydon believes some women are only in relationships to protect their future. “It is selfish because it presumes that we should use a relationship as an insurance policy: Commit your life as protection against the possibility that you'll become lonely or dependent in later life. One survey out last month claimed 51% of us are over-insured. And that, I doubt, doesn't include people staying in mediocre relationships just in case.” “B e i n g s i n g l e u s e d t o m e a n t h a t n o b o d y w a n t e d y o u . Now it means you’re pretty sexy and you’re taking your time deciding how you want your life to be and w h o y o u w a n t t o s p e n d i t w i t h .” - Carrie Bradshaw. ZENSPIRATION.ORG 83