“ Young professionals! Say no to bullies!!!”
What do we risk?
� Conflicts with others( they feel threatened)
� Loosing respect for ourselves
� Loosing respect for others
� We will be disliked
� Enormous stress
� Violence situations
� Results opposite to expectations
What do we risk?
� Losing your selfesteem
� Feeling hurt, angry, frustrated
� Encouraging others to dominate
� Aggression as a result of accumulation of emotions
What do we risk?
� We might be disliked for expressing our opinions
� Changes in our relation with others – not everyone will accept assertiveness
It is important to know which attitude is dominant in my case so that I can use the most suitable one in a particular moment and in particular situation( sometimes it is better to be submissive than assertive, and it is advisable to learn how to assess situations we are involved in).
ASSERTIVE TECHINQUES- they will help you to behave assertive:
‣ Speak openly about what you think, or feel in this situation. If it is difficult, you can admit that
‣ Exposing hints – name what is happening. If someone indirectly insults you, name it directly asking if that is what he / she meant because this is how you understand it
‣ If you don’ t know how to react, or what to say- don’ t. Think it over, give yourself some time, admit that you need it.
‣ Anticipate the criticism – if you expect being criticized, you can say it first. It helps to soften your partner and it shows that you treat him fair and see your mistake and take responsibility for it
‣ Changing the general criticism into detailed – to talk exactly what is being criticized
‣ Separate content from the form – You can agree with the criticism, yet don’ t agree with the form you are being criticized with
‣ From the matter to the process – switch your attention and the conversation from what is being said to how it is being said and what is happening between you and your partner during that conversation
‣ Using phrases starting with I –“ I want, I feel, I think, I need” – instead of“ you are …”
‣ Repeating your answers over and over again
‣ A statement supporting your relation with your partner –“ I care about You..”,“ Our friendship is important to me”
‣ Coming back to the facts
‣ Mentioning consequences( gently)
‣ Protect Yourself
5. Self-esteem
We all evaluate ourselves – everyone thinks about themselves in a good, or in a bad way, everyone likes, or dislikes themselves. The way we think about ourselves influences our behavior and the manner we let other people treat us. Our low, or high self-esteem depends on the following factors:
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