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DR DAIN HEER Dr Dain Heer is a speaker, coach and author of nine books including the bestselling book, Being You Changing the World, which has been translated into Swedish, German, Spanish Italian and Estonian. Dain provides the tools and inspiration to uncover the real ‘you’ and find the courage to be different – which in turn sparks new ideas, creates success and increases happiness and wellbeing. His work is now in 131 countries in which he facilitates people to tap into and recognise their own abilities and empowers them to know they are the creators of their own life. Learn more at  www.drdainheer.com or at www.accessconsciousness.com Tip 1 Move It is simple and ridiculously effective. Scientists don’t talk about endorphins for no reason. Getting out and getting active, even if it’s the last thing you want to do, will definitely make you feel better, especially if you incorporate this into your regular lifestyle. Take baby steps if you are out of shape; start with a five minute walk around the block and increase incrementally from there. Tip 3 Ask Questions and Don’t Look for Answers Looking for answers limits our possibilities. Questions empower us, while looking for one right answer will lock you into one way of thinking. For example, instead of asking yourself “why am I always broke?” or “why can’t I meet the right person?” and answering yourself with something unhelpful like “because I’m unattractive or I am not smart enough,” try asking yourself “What would it take to change this?” The key is not to look for an answer – instead, just put the question out there and see what happens! By asking open-ended questions you stop yourself going down the same wellworn path and can suddenly see other options and possibilities. Perhaps you will even find a possibility that will change your future! Tip2 Banish Judgement  Judgment is a killer of so many things – happiness, productivity, relationships, and growth – and getting rid of it will give you the lightness you seek. Stop judging others but more importantly, stop judging yourself. Don’t see things in your life as good, bad, right, wrong or how they should or shouldn’t be. This is even more important in the age of social media. Don›t rate your life on the ideals you see on the Internet or what your Facebook friends› lives look like. Let life just be. Stop analysing everything and refrain from categorising it into positive and negative. Learn to banish judgment and it will free you. Tip 4 Give Love What if instead of striving for love, you were willing to have gratitude and caring for others without judgment or offense? Love means something different to every one of us. So, strive to be grateful, caring and completely accepting of yourself and those around you. AUTUMN 2015 YMCA HEALTHY LIVING MAGAZINE 17