Xtraordinary Women Magazine June 2014 | Page 10

Ultimately your heart knows when it’s time to walk away. My heart certainly knew ten years ago, though it took some time for my head to come to terms with my decision. Through the struggles I experienced I came to see that there is a definite upside to quitting. In particular I gained the following insights: • Quitting is NOT the same thing as giving up. Giving up is: - Throwing in the towel because you can’t be bothered to put in the effort - Going for every new fad on the market and bailing out when a new one comes along - Losing sight of your dream, mainly because it was hazy to begin with - Not believing in your product or service, and chopping and changing your offering on a whim Giving up never creates success. It reflects a lack of vision, commitment and focus, and can only lead to one failed venture after another. Quitting what no longer works is a powerful act. It takes courage to take an honest look at your life and to admit when things aren’t working. It is also a sign of maturity to know when you are doing more harm than good. • It doesn’t have to be so hard. The idea that nothing worthwhile can be achieved without pain and suffering is outdated and destructive. We can only serve others, express our talents and maximise our potential when we are enjoying what we do. It is this positive energy that sustains us and keeps us moving forward. If your work takes more from you than it adds to your life – in terms of satisfaction, reward, sense of purpose, energy or whatever is important to you – then it may be worth asking yourself what you are doing and why you are doing it. • Nothing is ever wasted No-one wants to look back on years of effort and feel that they have wasted their time, money and energy on an ultimately futile venture. So we hold on, even when it is detrimental to ourselves to do so. We do not appreciate enough that every failure and set-back we experience is an opportunity for growth, and that all the trials we face shape who we become. Even as we stumble we acquire new skills and new levels of resilience, and the disappointments we face today will inform how we respond to tomorrow’s challenges. It’s time we said it’s okay to quit sometimes. When you quit what no longer works you are giving yourself a second chance, honouring the purpose of your existence, and taking control of your life and your destiny. The world needs us at our best.