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7 Reasons Why Your Mom Can’t Be Your Wedding Planner by Embellish Weddings & Events, Laramie, WY #1 Added Stress I know you don’t want to believe me. You and your mom have a great relationship. You always have. She knows you better than anyone else. She loves you. She wants the best for you. But. When you work with someone you love, on something that’s already pretty stressful, you have no one to share your frustrations with. If mom is hovering too much, or not accomplishing the tasks you’ve given her, there’s no one to gripe to about it. When you feel like you have to tiptoe around someone, feelings get bottled up and before you know it, you’re more stressed than you ever imagined you’d be. Planning something big with feelings involved is a guaranteed recipe for disaster. Bring in a third party who can keep track of everything, manage stress on your behalf, and help to keep you and your mom on good terms. Money Matters #2 I hate to say it, but if your mom has any part of footing the bill for your big day, she’ll be a lot less likely to entertain your big ideas. It’s much less fun to dream big with the person who holds the purse strings. An experienced planner will have the knowhow to bring your dreams to life without breaking the bank, but your mom will likely see numbers and put a stop to wild ideas before they even get off the ground. She’s not trying to ruin your fun. It’s her job to think ahead and be practical. You need someone who can work behind the scenes to make things happen without causing anyone’s blood pressure to increase. She’s not Wonder Woman raphy, flowers, and budget, combined with all the details of each, is daunting. There is no way your mom can do all that and still have the energy and heart left to enjoy the planning process with you. Your mom should be attending dress fittings, tasting cakes, and throwing showers. You want to be sure she enjoys the planning process as much as you do, and if she’s got a to-do list that’s a mile long, she never will. Planners, on the other hand, we love to-do lists. Highlighting, doublechecking, and crossing-off are some of our favorite activities. Let the people you love experience the joy alongside you, and save the details for a professional. #3 Planning a wedding is a huge undertaking. Huge. To organize everything from big decisions on venue, photog- 34