YOUTH WORSHIP TEAM
PERFECTION PARALYSIS | Vance & Michelle Shepherd
Last month we discussed getting prepared for your live worship events , and provided some practical equipment checklists for musicians , so they can make the most of their rehearsal and event stage time . But what if you came to your event prepared and well rehearsed , but you didn ’ t do as well as you hoped ? Maybe something threw you off , maybe you missed a que , made a mistake that you think everyone surely noticed , etc ?
This happens to everyone , and the longer you stay in the game , the more it will happen ! But the most important thing is how we recover from a less than stellar performance .
At one of our worship events , one of our extremely good vocalists was upset to the point of tears about not being able to hit a big note exactly like she wanted to . And it was something she had rehearsed over and over , but it didn ’ t go as planned in the rehearsal and run-thru . I walked by the restroom after the sound check and could hear her crying . Her mom was trying to console and encourage her , but it wasn ’ t working . I knocked on the door , asked if I could come in , and I could see that she was distraught about it , beating herself up to the point that she didn ’ t want to lead worship for the service .
Using her voice to worship God was now turning into something negative , something humiliating and stressful to her , and she wasn ’ t able to worship with the freedom she had experienced before . To see her so upset made me really upset , because I knew where her head was at …. I ’ ve been there before myself , and I wanted to do whatever I could to get her to see it for what it really was . It ’ s something that every singer or musician has to face down at some point .
I had a serious heart talk with her and explained to her that what she was feeling was anxiety , stress and depression from trying to be “ perfect ”. It ’ s a sly tool that the enemy uses to make us ineffective in our worship . As vocalists and musicians , we deal with many emotions , and continually battle the idea of perfection , and of not being good enough . We can negatively spin out of control if we don ’ t have a healthy grasp of why we ’ re doing what we ’ re doing , and Who we ’ re doing it for .
I believe that trying to attain perfection is the enemy of excellence in worship , and here ’ s why : When we ’ re focused on being technically perfect , the focus turns inward . We ’ re now focused on ourselves , and our own capability ( or lack of ). And perfectionism is a bottomless pit . Our brain says , “ I ’ m never good enough ”, or “ Everybody will see me as flawed if I don ’ t do this perfectly ”, or “ I only feel good about myself if I meet my own standard of perfection ”. Perfectionists are always disappointed in themselves , and can become paralyzed by fear , to the point of not being able to do the work of the ministry .
1 Corinthians 10:31 says this : “ So whether you eat or drink , or whatever you do , do it all for the glory of God ”.
Striving for excellence demonstrates that you have a good work ethic , strength of character , and integrity in what you do . Perfectionism , on the other hand , sets standards that are so high they either can ’ t be attained , or only with great difficulty . Perfectionists tend to believe that anything short of perfection is horrible , that even minor imperfections lead to catastrophe . Over time , you might even start to believe that you ’ re not as capable as others , so you should just give up . And that ’ s why we have to stay mindful of why we do what we do , and Who we do it for .
A few helpful things in this battle of the mind and heart : Realize that perfectionism is the enemy of joy . When you feel the need to be perfect rise within you , take a moment . Remind yourself of why you have chosen not to see your efforts in this way .
Know that if you work hard at something , invest your heart and your passion and your mind , your outcome will be great .
If you make a mistake , be okay with it ! Mistakes aren ’ t the problem , being paralyzed into inaction is . Change how you react to mistakes . Don ’ t think of them as something to be avoided at all costs . Mistakes are opportunities for growth . You can ’ t truly be passionate about something unless you ’ re willing to risk getting something wrong . You don ’ t learn anything by standing back on the sidelines . You learn by falling down , getting back up , and then going a step further .
Perfectionism isn ’ t part of your personality : perfectionism is just a way to cope for the unpredictable . It ’ s about control . You ’ re won ’ t change who you are as a person by renouncing perfectionism , you ’ ll just discover who you are without this false armor .
It was a very teachable moment for my student that day , as I reminded her of what she should be focusing on : the love and character of God , things of eternal value , things that cause the name of Jesus to be honored and worshiped , that cause people to recognize their sin , repent , and move closer to God . And this is what we get to do as worship leaders and musicians when we lift our voices and play our instruments ; bringing glory and attention to God , making HIM famous . And that will always translate on Sunday !
May you be blessed as you continue to pour into or become the next generation of worship leaders and musicians !
Vance & Michelle Shepherd Founders of The Shepherd School of Music in Las Vegas , NV , where they work with youth to raise up the next generation of worship leaders and musicians . facebook . com / shepherdschoolofmusiclasvegas www . ShepherdStudiosLV . com
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