to look in my heart and if there is anything that conversation (laughs). Whatever it is, these great leader, and I love working with you, but
needs healed, or changed, or fixed, I want that are all things I had to relearn because all of there’s this one thing that you do and it really
to happen.” People are trained in how to help the wounds of my childhood had taught me hurts me. When you’ve had a bad morning and
us start digging around in there, look around unhealthy responses. So anyway, those are all you come into our meeting really upset from
and see, do a little checkup on what’s going places that you can start to dig around, look whatever happened that morning, instantly the
on in there. around, and just see what inside of you needs whole room changes and I start thinking, “Is
to change and grow and be fixed. she mad at me? Did I do something wrong?
Paying attention to our responses and situations,
And it’s really uncomfortable and I’m stressed
how do we respond to certain things? If there The other thing is, if you do not receive regular out all day wondering if I did something, only to
is a really negative response to something, that feedback in your life, go ask for it. I do not know later find out that your dog died that morning.
is probably a really good indicator that there is a successful leader who does not and has not But it would have been helpful if you had told
something unhealthy going on in there. A lot of received feedback. Feedback is a sure-fire way us that at the beginning so that all of us weren’t
times the way that we respond to life, stress, to grow as long as you respond well to it. As on edge the entire meeting.” And I’m like, “Oh,
good things, bad things, all of those are learned long as you receive the feedback and actually ouch. You are so right and I am so sorry.”
in our environment. If there are wounds inside adjust, change, and grow. It’s feedback from of us, or wounds from our childhood, those your leaders, your mothers and fathers, it’s There have been many times that Banning has
generate negative ways of responding to things feedback from your peers, and it is feedback brought me feedback, and in my head as he’s
in life inside of us when we’re adults. This is from the people you are leading. Especially telling me this feedback I’m arguing, “No, that’s
something I learned when I spent years going feedback from the people you are leading, not true! That’s not right! I don’t do that!” But I
through counseling. Once I got through all the man, you think you’re humble until you get keep my mouth shut and I just say to him, “Well
inner healing I spent all this time in counseling that. Then you find out you’re not that humble Banning, this is good feedback and I need to
learning how a healthy person handles stress. because it’s real hard to receive feedback from go process this and I would like to talk more
How a healthy person handles disappointment. the people you’re leading. Especially if it is hard, about it later.” And Banning knows this is a
How a healthy person handles an awkward challenging feedback. Like, “Well, you’re a really signature Kim move right here, I leave and I am
April 2019
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