Worries
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people around you start to ask you, “Have you made any
arrangements for your daughter?” Then you should know it is
time for you to start thinking about it and make some effort
from that time onwards. But here one begins to worry fifteen
years too soon! He will even tell his wife, “Do you realize that
our daughter is growing up and we have yet to get her married?”
Wrong time to worry
If he worries about marrying his daughter seventeen years
before her time, then why does he not worry about dying? To
that he would say, “No, do not remind me about dying.” So I
asked him, “What is wrong in reminding you about death? Are
you not going to die at some point in time?” He replied, “But
if you remind me about dying, I will lose today’s happiness and
life will turn sour.” So then, why are you contemplating your
daughter’s marriage? Will you not lose your zest for life when
you do that? Your daughter has brought from her past life with
her, everything for her marriage. Parents are only instrumental in
all this. This girl has come with all the requirements for her
wedding, even the amount of money you will spend on her
wedding.
You do not have to worry about your daughter. You are
there to nurture her. She has even brought along the boy she
will eventually marry. We do not have to ask anyone to give
birth to a son for our daughter. “We have a daughter, so would
you please give birth to a son?” Is that what you ask people?
She has come prepared with all the goods, but the father still
continues to worry day and night, “She is twenty-five years old
and she is still not married.” Why are you complaining when
there is a twenty-seven year old boy out there? You just don’t
know where to look for him that’s all. Why don’t you quietly
retire to bed? Your daughter has even brought with her the
timing of her marriage.