Women Shining Magazine Women Shining Spring 2018 | Page 52

P rocrastinating or avoiding issues
(especially family or friend relationships) drains
our energy and undermines our self confidence.
Have you ever received a
call or email asking you
the ‘why’ question?
Why did you not call, why did you not do
something. Usually this type of call comes
from someone who makes you uncomfortable,
perhaps someone we feel has power over us in
some way.
You feel challenged and cornered. You do not
want to deal with this issue. You worry and
assume that if you were to deal with the
question you would be judged, taken advantage
of, or worse... lose.
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You start to justify not dealing with it or
responding. You focus on the other person
and all the reasons that you do not or will not
deal with the issue.
The reality is the question ‘why’ raises some
feelings that we are not ready to deal with. So
we convince ourselves that we don’t have to
deal with this issue.
IF we were comfortable with that decision all
would be well. Truth be told, we then spend
the next day, week, month talking to everyone
who will listen about the issue, searching for
validation in our choice not to deal with
the issue.
So HOW does one turn things around so that
we can deal with the situation and take back
our power?