Women Shining Magazine Women Shining Spring 2018 | Page 25

Interviewer: We touched on the financial costs of helping women. So what is this costing us emotionally as a community? Charlene: The cost is huge, I think the reality of being in this field for a long time is that the trauma and impact on women is pretty evident. It is pretty scary in many ways for women. That level of safety is very difficult to get back which means that emotionally, mentally and spiritually, to be whole again, takes an incredible amount of work - and unfairly really. As a community I think it divides our us. I think it is one of those things again, if you look on social media you can see the people who have a bit of a lens and you can see the people who do not. When in reality less than .01 percent ever lie about actually being sexually assaulted. We do not talk about the 97% of offenders who never ever have a charge or any sort of consequences. It is always the focus on the .01% because it justifies the behaviour. This creates divide in our community. But you can see the divide of the victim blaming vs. the non victim blaming. The ideology that women lie about this. 23 23