SINGLE, SAVED & FABULOUS
SINGLE, SAVED & FABULOUS
Frustrated, heartbroken, lonely, tired and hopeless seems to be
the daunting words of so many singles today.
A Heart of
Gratitude
BY: DR. LORNEKA JOSEPH
Perhaps you have spent years in relationship after relationship,
hoping and praying that your intimate investment would
yield a rewarding return of a lifetime commitment of love and
married life, only to find and feel that love has once again left
you out. Listen, you may feel as if you are stranded in a state
of singleness. You may even feel abandoned or have been
abandoned, but know that you do not have to stay stuck. You
do not have to live a frustrated, lonely, tired and hopeless life.
There is a freedom that awaits you giving you the opportunity
to live a fantastically fabulous and fun-filled life. Your state of
happiness does not and should not be dependent upon your
marital status. While it would be great to create fun-filled,
Love Won’t
Leave You
OUT!
By; Jacqueline Baxter-Hollins
meaningful days with that special someone, it would be just
In today’s society, we are all bombarded with many things that
make us look at what we do not have instead of appreciating
Here are a few things you can be grateful for while waiting
especially during the holidays:
blessings right in front of us.
The definition of gratitude I would like for you to keep in mind
is readiness to show appreciation and to return kindness. As
single women, it is important that we express gratitude or
kindness back to God every day and not submerge ourselves in
self-pity about what is not happening for us right now. I know
you’re probably thinking why should a single woman waiting
to get married be grateful. Well, I’m here to help you see things
from God’s perspective.
The Word of God is replete with scriptures on giving thanks
to the Lord but 1Thessalonians 5:16-18 in the Message Bible
states, “Be cheerful no matter what; pray all the time; thank God
no matter what happens. This is the way God wants you who
belong to Christ Jesus to live.”
The emphasis is to be cheerful. Do not allow the enemy to
make you oppressed, depressed or feel condemned because
you are waiting on God’s best. I truly believe that we all are
tested with unique situations because just like Job in the Bible,
God wants to brag on us for His glory. I know it doesn’t feel
good watching everyone around you get married, but focus on
your salvation. Paying attention to others can cause frustration
and bitterness. Murmuring and complaining could make us
wait longer because we are not showing gratitude to God NOW
while being single.
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singleness and not savor every second of your life. Life is too
precious; live it to the fullness! Regardless of how you feel, love
what we do have. Of course, it’s human nature to want more,
but when the desire for more makes us ungrateful, we miss
as foolish for you to waste precious moments in your season of
1. Be grateful that your ex did not destroy you & God is
still healing you.
did not leave you out! Please don’t lose hope because love is
2. Be grateful that God gave you another chance to
escape sexual & physical abuse.
to be loved, but is waiting on you to finally understand that
3. Be grateful that despite your disobedience, you did not
contract HIV/AIDS.
waiting on you. It has not forgotten about you or your desires
love will never leave you. (Deuteronomy 31:6) While waiting
for love, learn how to love yourself by deepening your love
relationship with God.
4. Be grateful that if you contracted an STD, you still
have life to move on.
I know and understand just how frustrating, heartbreaking
5. Be grateful that you are a NEW creature through
Christ.
while you are in the process, remember that God loves you
6. Be grateful that God’s purpose for your life can still be
fulfilled. It’s up to YOU!
7. Be grateful that God has not forsaken you & still provides for you.
and painful the waiting and the wanting process can be, but
with an everlasting love. (Jeremiah 31:3) Although you may not
be experiencing the pleasures or companionship of marriage
right now, you can still live a satisfied and love-filled life by
cultivating an intimate relationship with God through Jesus
Christ. You will never know the true pleasures and joy of love
until you have tasted of the love of God through a personal and
8. Be grateful that you did not marry a man who doesn’t
love you.
intimate relationship with Jesus Christ. Therefore, I encourage
9. Be grateful that you still have time to get delivered &
healed from the past & live FREE
your love relationship with God, which will prepare you for the
10. Be grateful for the freedom to maximize potential before you get married.
You can read more about cultivating an intimate relationship
I challenge you to expand this list and to listen to Kurt Carr’s
song Be Grateful, which is one of my favorite songs. Take note
of the joy and peace you experience every day because you
CHOOSE to live with a heart of gratitude.
or download your copy you can go to www.amazon.com/Heal-
you to use your season of singleness to strengthen and deepen
natural love of your life.
with God in my book entitled, Heal Us in Our Intimacy. To order
Us-In-Our-Intimacy/dp/147005043X.
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