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listen because of your position) that is a less effective
leader. When you are a people leader, people listen
because they want to! I lead a volunteer army and
they are a force and yet they are volunteers! They
don’t work for me! We are partners! When you can
lead a volunteer army to be effective and to grow,
God has given you the ability to lead! You have
to tap into your leadership ability and not based
on a position or title but based on the fact that
people want to follow you. If your goal or vision is
all about you, it’s not from God. Any God-given
vision means that it encourages someone else.
Like with Women of Standard magazine, it is not
just about subscriptions but it speaks to the heart!
Helping is the motive!
Attitude is everything! It is your attitude not your
aptitude that determines your altitude! No matter
what was going on in my life back then, I didn’t
have to succumb to it. I wasn’t strong enough
back then. My attitude has taken me places that
I should not have been. Having the attitude of
a winner! One of my songs I play at the launch
(minus the rap) is, “All I do is win, win, win no
matter what!” My relationship with Christ is
the ultimate key to my success. This year was my
authentic year! As a Woman of God and business
woman, I have many people of all religions with
me but I led the year off with a prayer! Walk like a
winner! Humility is when your demonstration of
love is so freely given but has so much going on!
Before concluding the interview, Dr. Lynn shared
key points from her books, Wealth Without
Sorrow and The Mind of a Millionaire. Here is
what she had to say about each:
“Wealth without Sorrow; Proverbs 10:22 say the
blessings of the Lord maketh rich and he addeth
no sorrow with it. It talks about how to live in a
wealthy place in your mindset. I was broke when
I wrote that book but I was a millionaire in my
mind! It has nothing to do with the manifestation
of a dollar at that point! I didn’t have to physically
possess it but in my mind I was one! I am the same
me as when I wrote that book! The principles are
the same! I understand me better, how I flow in
Christ better, and how to step back sometimes. I
have learned some things! I wish I had a mentor to
help me through those things and tell me the truth
about me! People don’t want the truth! When you
come around me, I’m not going to just celebrate
you and not give you truth and then we won’t be
celebrating you in another year. Your truth that
you don’t want to deal with will catch up to you!
I’m a living witness! It’s good to have people to tell
you the truth!
The Mind of Millionaire will help get you out
of debt, get your finances right, and develop the
mind of a millionaire God’s way. Before you say
what God does not want you to have, know it
first. What does God say about it? On my calls
and in my meetings, I am dealing with the mind;
getting the mind renewed! We are born again, so
let’s be born again. For those who are not, this
is your opportunity to come to the winning side!
Get that mind of a millionaire! Get it all! Money
is not evil, only the life you give to it! If you’re
g ood, you’re going to be real good! If you’re bad,
you’re going to be real bad! It only amplifies who
you are! Be transformed and be great for God!”
Dr. Lynn then goes on to add the importance of
pushing out the baby (your vision/giving birth to
your purpose): “Put your feet in the stirrups and
push and lets’ get to it! You can’t get that beautiful
baby out if you don’t push it out! It’s going to
give you some pain but look at the beautiful
prize at the end! It’s going to cost you something!
My son is 9 years old and I have been married
almost 20 years. I wouldn’t sit still and it cost me
something. I don’t have a lot of friends because it
costs me something! Thank God I have 15,000
plus partners! I have to protect my atmosphere at
all times! Thank God I am married to the right
man who keeps my household balanced for me
and gives me a protective place to be!”
In closing Dr. Traci Lynn encourages us to keep
our atmospheres clear and our ears deaf to the
naysayers and to remain focused no matter what.
She never promised the road to birthing your
vision would be easy but she does promise it will
be worth it! “Obedience is better than any sacrifice
you can make,” says Dr. Lynn. So with that being
said ladies let’s enter 2014 with a bang and with a
winners attitude! Because all we do is WIN! WIN!
WIN! Let’s go!
www.tracilynnministries.com
@DrTraciLynn
Heal Me From
Heartbreak: Am I
Bitter orbyBetter?
Lynetta Jordan
Marriage Under
Construction:
Avoid
Stressful
Time During
the Holidays
by: Apostles Ronell & Harriette Rodgers
D
ecorating the home with beautiful Christmas ornaments, you are
looking forward to completing the shopping list and the arrival
of loved ones to enjoy jokes, tales of times together; and future
endeavors. Although this is a time of celebration, it can be a time of increased
stress, especially in marriages. Disruptions of the usual pattern will cause
stress. Traffic delays, waiting until the last minute in order to secure that
last chance to receive mark down items in the stores; crowded malls and
oftentimes limited funds are all familiar disruptions. The ultimate goal of
purchasing gifts is to share and spread joy and love to our family and friends.
However, not properly preparing for this event can ultimately become very
chaotic.
Be mindful that overspending during the holidays can cause arguments,
stress and anxiety. It can create a war zone after the holidays are over.
Household finances should not suffer because of our inability to control
holiday spending. Christmas is defined as that time of year as giving and
receiving; therefore involving the family in charitable programs, such as soup
kitchens, attending the needs of the homeless, investing in toy drives can be
more satisfying and rewarding than spending unnecessary money.
Also, to relieve the stress of the one person preparing all of the holiday meals,
why not make cooking a family event? Each visiting family member can
consent to bring two dishes. Shared cooking will reduce stress of one family
member having the responsibility of preparing the entire meal, and also
allowing that member to enjoy the festivities of the holidays as well.
The Christmas season has always been a stressful but loving time in our
household, which has caused us to establish a few new rules in shopping for
friends and family in order to reduce stress. Focusing on blessing, sharing and
loving others is very important to the Rodgers family during any season. For
the majority of people, spending money to purchase gifts is the highlight of
the Christmas season. How can this special holiday be celebrated when funds
are low? One of the best Christmases in which our family witnessed was in
the year of 2010, when the funds did not allow us to purchase the mounds of
gifts as we once did. We decided that the entire family would congregate at
our oldest daughter’s home that year. Knowing that the funds prevented the
usual purchasing of gifts, we accepted the fact and embraced the opportunity
to verbally share stories of the past which generated much laughter and joy.
This past holiday season earned the badge as one of the most stressful
holidays that we had ever experience, but it also became one of the best
Christmas holidays for the Rodgers family because we had each other. Don’t
put an extra pressure on yourself or your family. Christmas is not just about
spending money, but spending time with each other.
This is an excerpt from Chapter 3 of Lynetta’s book, Love Without The
Drama: Why Settle When Relationships Can Sizzle.
Single ladies; are you ready for your dream relationship? If you are bitter,
resentful, secretly or openly harboring unforgiveness toward anyone in your
heart--ex-lovers, others or yourself, you are not quite ready. Letting go of past
pain is necessary as you prepare to handle the blessing of a new, drama-free
relationship. So let’s start the journey to help you heal from past relationship
hurt.
Psalms 147:3 says, “The Lord heals the brokenhearted and binds up all
their wounds.” When I experienced the devastating heartbreak of a broken
relationship, the Lord healed, restored and revived me as I journeyed through
three significant steps:
1. Acknowledge your pain.
2. Allow Yourself To Grieve.
3. Choose To Forgive.
Acknowledge your pain. “I’m hurting and I want to be healed.”
When a relationship dies, at first it feels like the pain will never cease. But
beloved, trouble does not last always. Confession is good for the soul, so if
your heart is bleeding, acknowledge your pain to God. He will never reject
you. It may also help to tell a friend, but make sure it’s one who will encourage
you and not make you feel worse!
Allow yourself to grieve. “I am grieving, but I am grateful.”
Grieving does not show that we are weak; it confirms that we are human.
It is natural, healthy, and beneficial to grieve a broken relationship. If you
attempt to avoid it, you can delay your healing, possibly damage your body
and depress your mind. Grief will catch up with you, so do not run from it.
The sooner you allow yoursel f to grieve, the sooner you can get your life back.
Choose to forgive. “I will let go and let God.”
The only way a victim can become a victor is to forgive. Forgiveness opens
the door to complete healing. It’s important to realize that its purpose is not
to change your offender, but to change you. When you choose not to forgive,
you do not hurt him or her, but you hurt and hinder yourself. When you
hold a grudge, have a cold heart, turn a deaf ear, plot revenge or do any acts
connected to unforgiveness, you damage the person in the mirror much more
than you think you are hurting your heartbreaker. Nobody should be worth
you hurting yourself more than they have already hurt you! Forgiving may
not be easy but it will always be worth it!
At www.LoveWithoutTheDrama.com, in my book Love Without The Drama,
life coaching and live seminars, I help catapult your relationship success! Life
is not over when relationships end. Jesus, the best emotional healer I know,
has power to transform your past misery into future ministry! You do not
have to remain bitter after heartbreak. You can become better!
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