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Pastor's Wives Corner
Insufficient Funds
by: Lady Emilie Robinson
Finances
Making the Shift to
FINANCIAL FREEDOM:
The Cure
BY: Tanya Angelique, MBA
The Greatest Love of All
By: Vincent K. Harris
| Health & Fitness
Did You Know?
By: Dr. Lorneka Joseph
~HIV MYTHS~
Now that you have taken out the trash, removed the misconceptions and
replaced them with new realities, it is time now to realign your life with
proven ideas. It’s time to invest in you through financial literacy because this
is the cure to the disease called poverty.
The biggest financial problem most people have is they don’t understand
the real problem. The real problem is not debt, spending, or income. These
are symptoms of the real problem. The real problem is what you don’t know
about money. If you knew more about money you would be better off
financially. Let’s look at some general principles concerning money.
Basic Thoughts:
S
uccessful people don’t keep
their success by doing the same
thing over and over forever.
Sometimes they must switch things
up a bit, try doing thing’s a different
way, or shift direction. This is the
essence of repositioning yourself for
virtually anything. Think about a
business trying to survive in today’s
economic climate. Do you think
they’re going to operate the same
way they did 10 years ago? Are they
going to spend the same amount of
money on payroll, marketing, or
operating expenses? Of course not.
As an entrepreneur they are faced
with these types of situations and
it’s how they reposition themselves
that will determine if they remain
successful or not.
I want to explore repositioning
yourself for love. Just as a business
will not use the same tactics to
sustain a business or to reenter an
industry they were previously in,
you must make changes also. You
want a forever love this time around
but you are still doing, speaking,
and behaving the same way you
did prior. You know the phrase to
get something you never had you
must do something you have never
done. The definition of insanity is
doing the same thing over and over,
expecting different results. Either
phrase you select is applicable to
desiring a relationship on a level
you have never experienced.
As always I love to ask, “How
bad do you want it?” Being able
to answer this is vital to whether
or not you will make lasting
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adjustments to that part of you
that is hindering your love life.
Trust me, we all have had some
area of our personality, behavior
or though process which stifles
and restricts our ability to sustain a
healthy, loving relationship. Make
the necessary adjustments after
some deep soul searching. Get clear
about what you really desire and
what sacrifices you are willing to
make to have it. Remember what
you think about you bring about...
so guard the thoughts that you will
never find love.
So often I hear people say, “I need
to find someone to complete me.”
This is said by men but honestly
it is more common in women. Yet
most fail to realize that the only
one who can complete you is you.
We look for love from friends and
family often saying, “I do so much
for everyone in my life yet I feel
used and taken for granted.” We
chase love in many directions yet
rarely feel fulfilled. We fail to realize
that being loved begins and ends
with self-love. If you do not love
yourself, it still won’t make you feel
content inside on a long-term basis.
Remember, you are your star player.
This is why self-love is the beginning
of a wonderful loving life. If you
want love in your life, go to the
mirror right now and state positive
affirmations of love and self-worth.
It will raise your consciousness and
bring about the best love affair you
can have- the one within you!
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T
he hustle and bustle of the
holidays is in full effect. With
the New Year right around the
corner, people are busily planning for
a year promised to yield great rewards.
Many make resolutions for their personal
lives, but what does a pastor’s wife do?
She often will neglect herself and focus
on making plans for the ministry in
which she serves - plans that promise to
bring others great spiritual growth for the
year ahead. But what about her? What
about the balance?
Pastors’ wives carry a heavy load in the
ministry along with the load of being a
wife, and possibly a career woman, or
mother and many other roles not named
here. How can a pastor’s wife balance the
desires she has for the ministry alongside
the other desires she has without feeling
like she is being selfish or self centered?
The answer is this: If she continues to
give and give and give some more, yet
never making any deposits into her,
she will begin to operate on insufficient
funds resulting in being no good for
anyone including herself. The sad truth
is this happens more often then you
may realize, but I have a secret. Pastors’
wives don’t have to live an imbalanced
life; there are ways to ensure she is not
running on insufficient funds.
Step 1: Divide life into categories
(e.g. God, family, ministry, self and
relationships). Then divide it into subcategories under each main category.
For example, a sub-category under the
“God” category could be prayer, study,
worship etc. This will continue to be
• A formal education will make you a living while an informal education
will make you a fortune.
• School teaches you what to think, your job teaches you not to think,
mentors teach you how to think.
• We are trained not to think, thus we create problems we don’t know
how to solve.
broken down in all areas of her life.
Step 2: As sign goals and deadlines for
each category. For example, a goal
for the sub-category “study” under
the category of “God” could be to
complete a specific book on fasting
based on the Word of God by May 1,
2014.
Step 3: Prioritize the categories, not
neglecting to list yourself.
God 1st, Family 2nd, Ministry 3rd,
Self 4th, Relationships 5th
These steps allow her to discover a
healthy balance in all categories which
will make her a whole woman. As a
pastor’s wife, you are often pulled to
focus on the ministry first however you
are multi faceted therefore you must
make deposits into every area of you.
I extracted the principle for these
steps from Habakkuk 2:2 and Luke
14:28. When these steps are taken and
completed you will be able to write
the vision for your year in every area of
your life, making it simple to perform.
You would have counted up the cost
and planned accordingly resulting in
your goals being completed. This then
gives the pastor’s wife the opportunity
to experience the joys of manifestation
in every area of her life in the new year,
making her whole. Pastors’ wives are
valuable to the assignment, thus, caring
for all areas of your life will cause your
light to continue to shine brightly for the
Lord. Now go and get to planning for
this New Year!
NOTE: The old saying goes like this, “A penny for your thoughts.”
Maybe this explains why people don’t think more because they are only
expecting a penny.
Monopoly is not just a game; it is a blueprint of how your finances should
be handled. As a child you knew the secrets to managing money. You applied
the secrets to managing money daily as you played the game of Monopoly.
Why did you grow up and stop playing Monopoly? Here are some things
Monopoly taught you about money that you may have forgotten.
1.
Your salary should be your initial source of income from passing “Go”
not your permanent source of income.
When you began playing Monopoly, you understood that initially, all
of your money came from your salary or passing “Go.” However, you
knew, as you became more experienced, the goal was to find better and
more efficient ways of acquiring money from the purchase of assets.
2.
Understand salaries are limited and they limit what you can do in life.
Regardless of how long you played Monopoly or how long it took
to go around the board (5 rolls or 16 rolls), your salary for passing
“Go” was limited to $200. The same can be said in life. Your salary is
limited to what your employer feels you are worth. Without properly
managing your salary, it limits the things you can do in life.
3.
Over time, your salary should become less important or required.
Throughout the game of Monopoly, you continued to receive the
$200 salary. During this same time frame, you were acquiring assets,
so you became less and less dependent on your salary. Are you as
dependent on your salary now, as you were when you began working?
Changing your approach and way of thinking can be difficult. However, the
legacy intended for you requires you to make the tough change. You can do
it. It’s never too late to become what you should have been.
You cannot become infected with the
virus by just touching someone so it is
safe to communicate and even socialize
with infected persons.
Just because someone was diagnosed with
HIV, they do not also have AIDS. Well,
there are some people who believe the
myth that once a person has HIV they
have AIDS as well and they will die. It
is a fact that everyone will die; however,
the life expectancy of persons living with
HIV has increased with the advancement
in medicine.
HIV and AIDS are global epidemics
that affect everyone because there is
no cure. But to become a part of the
solution means to actively get involved
in your communities. To help you and
others reduce becoming a statistic;
it is important that you educate
yourself. I know there are thousands of
informational websites, books and media
outlets that discuss HIV and AIDS, so
here are ways to identify truth. When
searching, read at least two to three
sources and compare the information.
Another way is to visit governmental sites
or health departments. Governmental
sites end with (.gov) in the URL. After
you’ve identified a credible source, take
the time to go through the consumer
section if you are not an HIV or AIDSpatient. There are sections specifically for
patients that can help with medication,
support groups, lifestyle changes,
contacts and more.
This month Women of Standard would
like for you to educate yourself on HIV/
AIDs by dispelling myths and seeking
truth. It is heartbreaking to meet and
counsel patients who are discriminated
by people who still think that AIDS can
be transmitted through touching. Below
are a few educational tips concerning
HIV and AIDS that is also worth sharing:
HIV/AIDs can be transmitted through
vaginal and anal intercourse; sharing
of needle sticks, artificial insemination;
mouth sores or bleeding gums and
through birth from a HIV-positive
mother.
If you are going to have sex, PLEASE use
a condom. Do not use a condom that has
been stored in a glove compartment of a
car. This is very dangerous. It is also very
important to look for expiration dates on
a condom before use.
Make sure you open a condom carefully
under light and avoid opening it with
your teeth or long fingernails. This can
puncture the condom.
If you are pregnant, make sure your
primary care physician or a local
clinic tests you for the virus. There is a
medication that prevents HIV/AIDS
from being transmitted to the fetus.
Talk before having sex with an infected
person. It is highly recommended
that you help your partner take their
medications consistently; follow safer
guidelines during sex; test at least once a
year and not share certain objects (razors,
toothbrush, and needles) that can carry
blood.
If you are a patient, do not stop taking
your medication as this can complicate
therapy and incur additional medical
expenses.
Do your part through education,
prevention and KNOW YOUR
STATUS!
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