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Personal Development On the Potter’s Wheel Personal Development | Vision Manifestation A New Year A New Me HOW TO SHIFT INTO THE RIGHT GEAR IN 2014 By: Nanette Floyd Patterson, MA LPC I had just finished shopping at the local grocery store as I got into my car to drive home. Without looking I positioned the shift lever in what I thought was the correct position and pressed the gas pedal. My car should have moved, but when it didn’t, I took a big sigh and said, “Now what?!” I took a deep breath and began to analyze what was happening. I glanced at the dashboard; no warning lights. I glanced at what should have been the obvious, the shift lever and it was in neutral instead of drive. I was not paying attention to the position of the shift lever. I was just ready to go. Have you set goals in life and it seemed that you thought you were positioning yourself correctly to achieve them, but there was no movement or momentum? You felt like you were giving it all you had but you were going nowhere fast. Have you consider your position? Are you in the right position for movement? As we go into the New Year, many will set the same goals they had this year for the upcoming year. Some will experience the same results because their goals do not align with the Vision Giver’s goals. When you are out of alignment with God, you experience a “neutral” position. When you realize that you are out of the correct position, you must shift gears to the right position regardless of your circle of influence. According to Idioms. thefreedictionary.com, “shift gears” is an idiom that means to suddenly change what you are doing. Is it possible that your 2013 goals were not what God had in mind? To keep from being in neutral, it 10 DECEMBER 2013 ­ • is important to analyze your goals. Make sure that they line up with God’s will for you. Not being in alignment with the Vision Giver will surely get you nowhere fast. You will be spinning your wheels, feeling overwhelmed and frustrated. Oftentimes we shift gears but not into the right position. We fail to reposition certain parts of our lives to line up with the Father. How do you move into the correct position? Pay close attention to the people around you and ask God for clarity of relationships. What is their purpose in your life? Use more of your spiritual senses and less of your natural senses. Don’t allow your emotions to drive you. Understand your motives behind every step you take. If it is self-serving, rethink your actions. Ask God for clarity of vision. Realize that listening to many people about God’s vision for you will result in many opinions which will cause confusion. Ask God if you are in the right position. If He says no, ask for clarity of position. Then act accordingly. Surround yourself with likeminded people. Remember, shifting gears means nothing if you are shifting into the wrong position. WWW.WOMENOFSTANDARD.ORG Workplace Dynamics “Glossophobia” by: Tee Way Actor George Jessel stated that “The human brain starts working the moment you’re born and never stops until you stand up to speak in public.” Glossophobia is the fear of public speaking. Some people would rather do anything in the world except speak in front of a group of people. The fear of speaking is characterized by nervousness, quivering voice, shaking hands, queasy feeling in the stomach and anxiety attacks. Glossophobia is so common that Toastmasters International and other organizations have been established to help people with their public communications skills. Anyone who desires to be successful must conquer this fear. When we are in the workplace, the way we communicate defines who we are. Our effective communication skills allow our team members to experience who we are and what we represent. In the workplace we need balance and consistency in our communication. An effective communicator knows how and when to say things. When done in a respectable manner, speaking up strengthens our influence and allows a healthy inter-office dialogue to flow among team members. So the more we interact in the communication process, the better we become at it. In the blockbuster movie, The Butler, there is a poignant scene where Cecil Gaines (played by Forest Whitaker) goes to the person in charge of hiring all of the White House butlers to ask for a raise. After years of being under-compensated for their valuable work, he speaks on behalf of himself and others in a way that was respectful, courageous and to the point. I am sure he felt afraid and intimidated by his boss, but the desired result was greater than his fear. Although his request was denied through several presidential administrations, he continued to work hard and went back again and again until his favor with President Reagan secured a much deserved pay increase for him and his team members. The great deliverer, Moses also experienced glossophobia. His assignment was to tell the Pharaoh of Egypt to let God’s people go. He was willing to forfeit his God-given purpose because he felt he could not speak. In Exodus 4:11, God told