Being Gay
“Is it a
choice?”
By Mahri Carmichael
With Gay Marriage being
legalised in the UK there has been an increase in people
asking questions about being gay/lesbian. The big one people
never seem to drop is “Is being gay a choice?”
After doing a lot of research and asking a lot of people, a lot of
people have mixed feelings about whether being gay is a
choice.
I interviewed an 18year old Lesbian, Steff. She’s was also a
part of the LGBT NYC team - (Nation Youth Council.) I asked
her about her attendance at LGBT meetings and how she felt
telling her family and friends about her sexuality. She was
rather confident about it; saw it as nothing to be ashamed of.
Which is how every gay/lesbian person should feel about it.
They shouldn’t feel ashamed, or feel the need to answer the
tens of thousands of questions thrown at them about being
Gay.
An interesting video by wingspan pictures called “love is all
you need?” is based in a universe where being gay is “normal”
and being straight is the minority. Everything that is depicted
as masculine such as sports was now feminine and everything
depicted as feminine, like drama, was masculine; a complete
role reverse.
A girl, who was raised by two mothers, was heterosexual, and
she was bullied and teased for it. Even by her parents. So
when watching it, you saw how a gay person feels when
treated like an outcast, like something “unnatural” and not
“normal”. Define normal? There is no definition for normal,
because in each person’s life there is a new normal.
Being Gay might not be “natural” in the sense of the ability to
bare children. But several animals have tendencies to go with
an animal of the same sex.
Dolphins, lions, brown bears, elephants, penguins, chickens,
dogs, cats, cattle.
So if it’s a choice? Then do all these animals wake up and
decide their sexuality?
If it’s a choice, then surely straight people decided they were
going to be straight?
If you “just know” that you’re straight? Then why can’t a gay
person “just know” that they’re gay?
The answer is: it’s not a choice. Different things attract
different humans. Everyone has a preference of looks and
personality. Just like people have preferences on gender. And
just because they can’t physically bare children, does NOT
mean they aren’t natural.
What’s natural to the bear; isn’t to the fish.