Women Matter April-May 2014 | Page 10

Rape. But her clothes provoked me! By Mahri Carmichael a woman. The exact same as that of a rapist. An example from a men’s magazine: “You do not want to be caught red-handed . . . go and smash her on a park bench. That used to be my trick.” So does this mean young men are being almost brainwashed into thinking in a particular way about women? That women “want it, whether they know it or not.” Rape is not a light subject. It is a horrible, traumatic experience that too many women Women spend their entire lives being told face. Not only that, many face it alone. Jess* how to act and dress in order to protect aged 13 was raped by a friend, when she themselves from being raped. Why is it that turned to counselling they found that she way? Why aren't men being sat down and was struggling with self-blame. A young girl, told DON'T RAPE? at 13, is blaming herself for what someone else inflicted on her? Yet the person that did In Scotland, between 2012 and 2013 the it feels no blame. total number of calls to RapeCrisis was 12,337. In Glasgow alone, there were 543 So was it her fault she was raped? calls. The phone calls were mainly women; however there were a few male victims. This What was she wearing? Would that make a difference? number quite frankly is disgusting. It shouldn’t. Yet people think it does. That if a girl dresses in tight clothing and short During my research I found an article that skirts she’s “asking for it”. It’s disgusting that showed quotes from a rapist, and a "lad in a society like today this is still a pathetic mag". The aim was to differentiate the excuse for a person to remove a basic right quotes from a rapist and from a magazine for men. Most people that read the quotes of another individual. The right to their own were incorrect. Suggesting that young males body. that read these magazines that subject women into objects of sexual pleasure; are being filled with vulgar, demeaning, views of Susanne* aged 14, raped by a boy at school. The school found out, and the boy was suspended. Susanne struggled at school for a few months and the schools response was that she “should just get on with it” as the boy had been removed from the school, putting pressure on Susanne to return to school. Get on with it? At 14, she had been forced, against her will, to have sex with a boy, and she was supposed to just move on? Contact RapeCrisis on 08088 01 03 02 for help today. *Names have been changed in this article for their protection. The two rape victims mentioned in this article found help from RapeCrisis and have been supported to suit their needs during Why at 14 is a boy raping a young girl? What their recovery. was Susanne supposed to do not to get raped? After all, it is how a woman presents herself, right? Wrong. At school there were several group talks to the girls on low-cut tops and short skirts. The argument being “there are men around.” Are these men animals? Are they unable to control themselves if a woman walks by with a skirt shorter than her knees? Young men should be getting sexual education from a young age, they should be sat down and have talks on respecting women and how rape is wrong. If you don’t teach your children to respect, they won’t. If young men are taught that women are only objects of sexual pleasure, they won’t respect them, they’ll use them. Girls shouldn’t have to watch their every move in fear of being raped. If you or someone you know has been a victim of sexual assault, please speak out.