WNY Family Magazine September 2019 | Page 6

press herself through art, music and physical activity. — by Christina Katz So, take a leap of faith. Remind yourself that the folks who run schools are trained professionals. Trust them with your child’s daily education and wellbeing. Then your child will ex- perience every day as an adventure in learning and growing. 3) Be positive and proactive. Try to find something to like about your school on a regular basis. If you don’t know what to like then you might not be aware enough. For The Love Of Learning:  4 Ways To Teach Your Child To Enjoy School R aising engaged students is not only the responsibil- ity of the teachers and the administrators at your school, it’s a job that starts at home with every parent. You may have anxiety, fears, or merely first-day jitters about your child go- ing to school. But if you can muster up your courage and take a one-good- day-at-a-time approach, you will find that raising a child who loves school is easier than you might have imagined. Just follow these four simple guidelines, keep your interactions with your school’s employees constructive and upbeat, and watch the magic that occurs when your child loves learning. 1) Share to prepare. Tell your child what you enjoyed about school. If your spouse enjoyed school, encour- age him to share stories, too. But if you had a difficult time in school, share those stories with someone who is not your child. Talk to another adult about the ways you struggled, and how those struggles might color your expectations of what school will be like for your child. Get your fears and biases about school off your chest and let them go so you won’t unwittingly pass them on. 6 WNY Family September 2019 Remember, your child is not you. That was then, this is now. By confronting and releasing any back-to-school skel- etons in your closet, you open the doors to a positive school experience for your child today. 2) Step back. Some parents have trouble trusting that a school will care about their child as much as they do. And it’s true — teachers won’t treat your child like a parent would. They will probably expect more. And they will care about your child as educational profes- sionals, who want to challenge your child so she can realize her potential, so let them do their jobs. Have a working knowledge of the school layout. Introduce yourself to teachers on Open House days and meet the folks who work in the front office, including the principal. Make sure the teacher knows you are on her team. If you have a miscom- munication or misunderstanding with a teacher or administrator, strive to work things out in a calm, proactive manner. Don’t hang on to negative perceptions or try to create negative consensus with other parents. Did You “Love” School? Maybe you think ‘love’ is a word that should be reserved for family and religion. But if your child does not love learning by the time he or she gradu- ates from elementary school, you may be in for a long uphill climb in middle school, high school, and college. Keep your attitude towards academics upbeat if you want to instill a lifelong love of learning in your child. Smart parents know that school is not just about academics. When your child is in school, she is learning how to be a member of a community. She is learning how to socialize and enjoy playtime. She is learning how to ex- Confident, secure par- ents seek solutions not squabbles. Put yourself in the teacher or administra- tor’s shoes before you pick up the phone or shoot off that e-mail. Remember, the way you would like to be treated is the way to behave, always, no matter how you feel in the heat of the moment. 4) Give without strings. Whether you work full time or not, there are typically two types of par- ent volunteers: those who willingly pitch in and help, and those who don’t want to spend time at school but do it for their kids. Be hon- est about the kind of parent you are, so you can find ways to be a cheerful con- tributor to the school. If you like to pitch in, join the PTA or sign up to be a room parent. You will