WNY Family Magazine March 2020 | Page 35

works for everyone, especially your par- ent. If the decision involves a move for your mom or dad, you could, even from a distance, offer to arrange tours of some places for their consideration. Experts advise families to think carefully before moving an aging adult into an adult child’s home. There are a lot of questions to consider. You must think about their current condition, as well as how their condition might dete- riorate in the future. Can you cope with the ongoing stress, involved in caregiv- ing in addition to the following:  Is there space in your home? Con- sider your home’s accessibility — stairs to navigate, halls and door- ways wide enough for a wheelchair, etc. We are a premier provider of quality, affordable senior housing in the WNY area. CALL US TODAY! 847-1635 Lease today, and experience a sense of pride and genuine community in your new Delta Development home! Comfortable, stylish and affordable apartments located in Buffalo, Blasdell, Lackawanna, Tonawanda, Wheatfield, East Aurora and Batavia Visit us at deltadevelopmentwny.com  Is someone around to help the older person during the whole day?  What are your parents able to do for themselves?  What personal care are you willing and able to provide — moving your parent from a chair to a bed or toi- let, changing adult diapers, or using a feeding tube, for example?  What kinds of home care services are available in your community?  What kind of specialized medical care is available nearby?  Is there an adult day program in your community? Or respite care for when you need to take a much- needed vacation? These decisions are emotionally charged and will be influenced by both your parent’s attitude towards change and that of your siblings toward pitching in to help, possibly financially if not in person. The relationship you have with your parents and siblings will also factor into how much resistance or cooperation there will be to change. Remind everyone involved that your parents took care of you when you were young and couldn’t care for your- self. Now that the roles are reversed, you are repaying their love and care by keep- ing their well-being in their later years as your ultimate goal. March 2020 WNY Family 35