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Buffalo & Erie County Public LIBRARY www.BuffaloLib.org RAISING KIDS IN A WORLD OF NOISE continued... its that promote empathy and the social intelligence that will help them thrive throughout life. “Introduce your kids to a diverse range of people and encourage them to befriend those who are different from them,” says McCor- mack. “Teach them to respond to challenging situations through a lens of curiosity and understanding instead of judgment. If a class- mate is snide at school, help your child come up with ideas as to why he or she may be behaving that way. “And of course, model ways for them to help others in need,” he adds. “If you see a mom struggling to balance groceries and a new- born, offer to help her get her bags into her car.” Above all, remember to check your own behavior. As a par- ent, you are a huge influencer. If you’re perpetually distracted and addicted to technology, how can you expect them not to be? When you spend hours watching TV or scrolling through Face- book after work, why would you not expect your kids to do the same? Spend your time in more productive, enriching, and rewarding ways. And talk about it. Say, “I’m really enjoying this pottery class. I like being creative.” Or, “I love working at the soup kitchen. It makes me feel happy to help others.” Remember, this is not about disconnecting from technology. It’s an incredibly valuable tool when we manage it well (rather than let it manage us). Rather, it’s about teaching kids to make better choices, to discern what they let in, and to take charge of their time and attention. It’s about giving them a life skill that will serve them well as adults. “We go to great lengths to protect our money and property and other resources, yet we don’t think twice about squandering our most expendable, scarce resource,” muses McCormack. “We have limited time, so what we pay attention to really matters. That’s one of the most important lessons we can teach our kids.” Joseph McCormack is the author of  “NOISE: Living and Lead- ing When Nobody Can Focus.” He is passionate about helping people gain clarity when there is so much competing for our at- tention. He is a successful marketer, entrepreneur, and author. His first book, “BRIEF: Make a Bigger Impact by Saying Less” (Wiley, 2014), sets the standard for concise communication. Joe is the found- er and managing director of The BRIEF Lab, an organization dedi- cated to teaching professionals, military leaders, and entrepreneurs how to think and communicate clearly. His clients include Boeing, Harley-Davidson, Microsoft, Mastercard, DuPont, and select mili- tary units and government agencies. He publishes a weekly podcast called “Just Saying” that helps people master the elusive skills of focus and brevity. To learn more, visit www.thebrieflab.com/noise/. A to Z Come Read With Me Enter the Winter Reading Challenge to win great prizes here: http://becpl.ny08.readsquared.com/ Now - March 13, 2020 All Buffalo & Erie County Public Libraries Grand Prize: Fire HD 10 Kids Edition Tablet - 10.1” 1080P Full HD Display, 32 GB, with a green or purple kid-proof case Alden Ewell Free Library Angola Public Library Anna Reinstein Memorial Library Audubon Branch Library Aurora Town Public Library Boston Free Library Downtown Central Library Clarence Public Library Clearfield Branch Library Town of Collins Public Library Concord Public Library Crane Branch Dudley Branch East Clinton Branch Eden Library Eggertsville-Snyder Branch Elaine M. Panty Branch Elma Public Library Frank E. Merriweather, Jr. Branch Grand Island Memorial Library Hamburg Public Library Isaías González-Soto Branch Julia Boyer Reinstein Library Kenilworth Branch Kenmore Branch Lackawanna Public Library Lake Shore Public Library Lancaster Public Library Leroy R. Coles, Jr. Branch Marilla Free Library Newstead Public Library North Collins Public Library North Park Branch Orchard Park Public Library City of Tonawanda Public Library West Seneca Public Library Williamsville Branch Library on Wheels Bookmobile Buffalo & Erie County Public LIBRARY www.BuffaloLib.org (716) 858-8900 February 2020 WNY Family 27