LIFE STYLE
instance, if your colleague is
discussing a problem with you
and you are listening, here is
an example of what you will say
‘If I understood you right, you
meant you are upset about not
getting the increment’.
This way you are making sure
you didn’t misunderstand and
at the same time the speaker
gains trust that you will
understand him/her.
Tip No 6 - Get Into The
Probing Mode
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If you want to make a speaker
believe that you are truly
listening, your involvement will
play a major role. You should
ask questions to the speaker
once he/she is done talking.
This doesn’t mean you overdo
it.
Ask questions if it is a critical
topic you are talking about or
when you want to understand
what is the speaker going
through. This involvement
between the two of you makes
you an excellent listener.
Tip No 7 - Avoid Drawing
Conclusions And Making
Judgements
You must follow two ethics of
not judging the person whose
talking and concluding even
before you have completely
understood.
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If you truly want to be a good
listener you need to take your
time, understand, analyze,
think from the opposite
person’s point of view and
only then let thoughts creep
into your mind.
If you end up
misunderstanding and being
insensitive, it will disappoint
the opposite person. While
you don’t have to be a people
pleaser, you cannot afford to
make mistakes at the same
time.
All in all, to be a good listener
you need to give up speaking
too much, begin to pay
attention and avoid making
judgments before you get your
facts right. Listen to the best
you can and make yourself
and the listener happy.