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told she was uncomfortable by
the sexual activity soon after
their date at Ansari’s apartment
and he did not notice her verbal
and non verbal clues showing
discomfort. He went on trying
things which made Grace feel
offended. She stated she was
pressurized to perform certain
acts which she said, “told him
[she] was uncomfortable”. She
added, “I felt violated. It took
a really long time for me to
validate this as sexual assault.”
Ansari said: “In September
of last year, I met a woman
at a party. We exchanged
numbers. We texted back and
forth and eventually went on
a date. We went out to dinner
and afterwards we ended up
engaging in sexual activity,
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which by all indications was
completely consensual. The
next day, I got a text from
her saying that although ‘it
may have seemed OK’, upon
further reflection, she felt
uncomfortable. It was true
that everything did seem OK
to me, so when I heard that
it was not the case for her, I
was surprised and concerned.
I took her words to heart and
responded privately after
taking the time to process what
she had said. I continue to
support the movement that is
happening in our culture ... It is
necessary and long overdue”
The woman’s texts after the
unfortunate date night, to
Ansari were reported to babe.
net by Grace and they read
“Last night might’ve been
fun for you, but it wasn’t
for me. You ignored clear
non-verbal cues; you kept
going with advances. ou
had to have noticed I was
uncomfortable … nothing
[changed] even after I
expressed that I’d like to
slow it down”
Ansari responded: “I’m so
sad to hear this. All I can
say is, it would never be
my intention to make you
or anyone feel the way
you described. Clearly,
I misread things in the
moment and I’m truly sorry.”
Grace was compelled after