WHEN DIVORCING DON ’ T BE STUPID
by Chris Sweetman and Peter Marples of Fair Result , a team of specialist divorce lawyers offering a new approach to achieve a fairer result for clients .
If you have decided divorce is the only way forward , don ’ t make stupid mistakes along the way .
Why the stupid things ? Because going through a divorce is extremely difficult . It ' s an emotional , stressful , and unbelievably scary time , and all those emotional changes cause people to sometimes lose the plot and become different people .
Remember at the outset , every step of the journey through to divorce can have consequences - don ’ t leave an angry drunken voicemail for your ex that can be played in court with devastatingly damaging effects .
Similarly , don ’ t send the abusive text you don ’ t want the judge to see . Don ’ t talk publicly in a negative way about your ex – the person you are talking to may just become a witness for your ex . Also don ’ t talk badly in front of the kids whatever happens in the divorce you are still going to have to co-parent for years to come .
Don ’ t do anything out of spite just because in the moment you think it will hurt your ex and don ’ t throw away all the mementos of the marriage in years to come when the immediate emotional pain has gone you may regret it .
Avoid the stupid mistakes - Get good advice from the start . In the first instance , close friends and family you can trust . Once you have decided you need to divorce get advice from a good divorce lawyer who you can trust
Don ’ t make the mistake of letting the lawyer just milk you for fees – get them to give you a fixed quote for the whole process divorce children and financial settlement . This is how Fair Result operate and if your lawyer won ' t give you a fixed fee ask why . Remember it ' s your marital pot that ’ s paying for this .
And once you have embarked on the divorce journey don ’ t make stupid mistakes along the way .
Be sensible in your approach – Use your common sense , don ’ t fight over things that have no value emotionally or financially . We see all the time cases where lawyers will let a divorcing couple fight for months over irrelevant things . We saw a case where a couple were arguing over the value of an engagement ring . Really ? The difference they were arguing over was a few hundred pounds and they probably spent more on the lawyers between them than the ring was worth .
Pick your strategy and stick to it knowing that in every case sensible , amicable negotiation will get you through the already emotionally stressful time . But realise that to reach the sensible solution you may just need a bit of wiggle room along the way .
Contact us now for a free no obligation chat about how our unique model with a fixed fee and sensible approach can help you . Tel : 07500 933818 or email chris @ fair-result . co . uk
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