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versations I have with myself (self-talk) that supports the person I am striving to be. I’ve
learned to speak to myself the way I would a dear friend. Tough love when necessary,
but mostly supportive and encouraging vocabulary. I have also learned to not make ex-
cuses. If I am not feeling well enough to do something for someone, I no longer make it
an excuse. I simply show up with authentic transparency. After all, if I am not willing to
own up to my limitations,
I cannot expect others to
understand when I have
them.
Today, I am someone
who honors my history,
my health journey, and
actually appreciates the
difficulties my health is-
sues brought to my life.
Today, my life is so much
richer because I have
chosen to pay attention to myself holistically and I know that if I do this well enough, I will
reap the benefits and so will everyone around me. Those days I do over-extend (those
days aren’t nearly as often any more) serve as a reality check, reminding me to honori
my limits. I no longer look at the physical things I cannot do and think of them as limits
that hold me back, but rather as limits to protect me.
My body was protecting me back in 1993 because I was on a direct trajectory to com-
pletely crashing and burning. When I didn’t pay attention, I was given the “time out” that
today, I now look at as having been one of my greatest lessons. I choose not to allow
any real limits to define what I can and cannot give of myself to others, though. But, I do
allow those limits to be my reminder that I have a responsibility to myself to take care of
me. So far, all of that hard work has benefitted me.
I started my own company, Guidance From Within Coaching, in January when I lost my
own Doctor. I decided to step into my journey as a Business woman who is showing
up for others in a bigger way to support and coach 50+ Women who are going through
various transformations/transitions in their lives, including those who deal with chronic
pain issues.
As a Sub-conscious Behaviorist, my sessions provide opportunities to explore uncon-
scious beliefs, limiting beliefs, reasons they might be stuck, or held back, or even some
of the reasons they may have difficulty moving forward after becoming ill. I love to help
women discover that all they really need is to believe in themselves. By working from
their unconscious level first, they can bring about changes in their lives that ripple out to
their personal relationships and beyond. It’s rewarding to help a woman develop, grow,
and become someone who loves herself on all facets, and who truly finds joy in every
day, regardless of chronic illness as part of their life.
Managing my condition is non-negotiable. I have had no other choice. Since my Doctor is
no longer available and no other Doctors in my area have that kind of experience or ex-
pertise, I am my own best solution. I’ve proven to myself over the last several months that
taking control of our own health and listening to what our body needs, is paramount to
being able to manage and live with a chronic condition such as Fibromyalgia.
After 24 years learning to live a better life and what I needed to do to manage the con-
dition, this honestly has been the first year I’ve actually felt strong enough to step back
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