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BE LIKE YOUR HEROES • Buddha – extremely generous, great teacher a reflection of our own behavior • Warren Bennis taught me by example that if the answer to the question, “Do you love what you do?” is “I don’t know,” it is time to rethink what you are doing and perhaps change it. • Richard Beckhard taught me that while we may think it would be great to have enough money to never work again, we’d never have to wake up early, go to work, or meet deadlines again. It is hard to find fulfillment in what we won’t have do. We can only find fulfillment and meaning in what we will do. • And, finally, Buddha… Buddha taught me to do only what he taught if it works in the context of my own life. He encouraged people to listen to his ideas, think about his suggestions, try out what made sense – keep doing what worked – and to just “let go” of what does not work. This is the essence of my feed forward coaching. Finally, Ayse asked us to cross out our heroes’ names and put in our own name. Marshall Goldsmith – extremely generous, great teacher. Ayse said “That is your heart’s desire – to be an extremely generous, great teacher like your heroes. This is the kind of leader you want to show up as.” I thought more specifically about what each person has taught me. Below is the short list of what I have learned from them. Each of these people has taught me so much. This is just a kernel of the wonderful learnings that they gave to me so freely. • Frances Hesselbein taught me that listening is an art, and that it is oftentimes crucial to our success to “listen first, speak last.” • Alan Mulally taught me the #1 Greatest Lesson for Coaches – If you are a coach, make it about your clients, not about you and your own ego. • Paul Hersey taught me that sometimes being too good at something can hold us back from being the best we can be, it can hold us back from investing in our future and achieving our true potential. Here is my suggestion for you. Make a list of your heroes. Next to their names, write down why they are your heroes. Now cross out their names and put in your own name. To the degree possible, be a leader, manager, coach, person just like that. • Peter Drucker taught me one of the most fundamental concepts that I use in all of my coaching and client work – how to effectively influence decision makers keeping one key notion in mind. “Every decision that impacts our lives will be made by the person who has the power to make that decision – not the ‘right’ person, or the ‘smartest’ person, or the ‘best’ person – make peace with this fact.” After doing this exercise myself and reflecting on what I learned from my teachers, I made a decision. I decided that just like my many teachers before me, I will give to others what has been so freely given to me. • Bob Tannenbaum taught me that sometimes it’s easier to see our problems in others than to see them in ourselves. Sometimes what really bothers us about someone else is just How will I do this? With my new project 100 Coaches. 100 Coaches is my legacy project. I am going to teach 100 people everything I know, for free! This is my chance to honor the many wonderful teachers and heroes that I have had over the years and to give to others as they gave to me. If you would like more details, please go to marshallgoldsmith. com/100coachesmarketing + TRIGGERS: Creating Behavior That Lasts -Becoming the Person You Want to Be by: DR. MARSHALL GOLDSMITH Filled with revealing and illuminating stories from his work with some of the most successful chief executives and power brokers in the business world, Goldsmith offers a personal playbook on how to achieve change in our lives, make it stick, and become the person we want to be. BY: MARSHALL GOLDSMITH, AUTHOR Dr. Goldsmith is the author or editor of 35 books, which have sold over two million copies, been translated into 30 languages and become bestsellers in 12 countries. His two other New York Times bestsellers are MOJO and What Got You Here Won’t Get You There - the Harold Longman Award winner for Business Book of the Year. In February 2016, Amazon.com recognized the ‘100 Best Leadership & Success Books’ in their To Read in Your Lifetime series. The list included classics and newer books - management and self-help books. Both Triggers and What Got You Here Won’t Get You There were recognized as being in the top 100 books ever written in their field. Marshall is only one of two authors with two books on the list. 13