Verb Magazine February 2014 | Page 6

PERSONAL VERB MAGAZINE VOLUME 1 ISSUE 1 FEBRUARY 2014 PAGE 6 Mad Men actress, Teyonah Parris rocking her natural hair at the 19th Annual Screen Actors Guild Awards held last year. LOVING THE HAIR I HAVE By Brittney Harris Upper 6, Chaguanas North Secondary It took me about approximately 17 years and many different hairstyles to realise that my natural hair was the best. When I was a little girl I dreaded those Sunday evenings when my mother sat down with a comb and put corn-rows in my hair to go to school. Tears would stream down my cheeks and sometimes it resulted in a comb hitting my back. I went from relaxer, to Jheri curl, to short hair, back to relaxer and then to braids to realise that I was fed-up. Then one day I suddenly took an interest in Afro hair-dos. It all started on Facebook. As I began to explore all the natural hair pages I began to take an interest in the way natural hair looked. I began to appreciate my hair as a young black woman. I started wearing Bantu Knot twists and stopped relaxing my hair. It eventually became frustrating to maintain this style as I had to redo it at least every two days. Eventually, I made the final decision and did the infamous “big chop”. For those who don’t know what I mean, the “big chop” – according to one the most popular natural hair blogs, www.natural- lycurly.com, is the process of cutting off the relaxed or permed ends of your hair when it is transitioning from chemically processed hair to natural hair. For me at last, it was freedom, a burden was lifted. Many people wanted to know where my Bantu Knot hair went but I was making way for the real Afro, my natural hair. It was a tough decision, I thought I would have missed those relaxed ends but I have no regrets and I have to say it was one of the best decisions I’ve made in my entire life. Though my hair texture isn’t as manageable as others, I appreciate the hair God gave me. Sometimes my mother behaves as though she would prefer if I relax my hair so it can be easier to manage but I refuse to go back to that “creamy crack”. I realised that all those years it wasn’t me who hated my hair, but I listened to the criticisms of my mother while there were other people who wished they had hair like mine. If parents taught their children to love their hair, many girls wouldn’t have so many self-esteem issues and would be more confident. The best hair is the hair that is on our heads. I believe it is a person’s decision to do whatever they want with their hair, that’s their choice, but just because society says your hair isn’t good means that you have to listen to them. Clog your ears towards those negative comments. It takes a process of self-introspection, growing, discovering your true identity and finding yourself to realise what you want. People can’t determine what career you choose, what religion you adhere to, and definitely what hair you want to rock on your head. If people make all of your decisions, you’ll live a very unhappy life. I want to say a big thank you to the women who wear their natural hair proud; you have most definitely inspired me to go back to my roots. When people see a woman with natural hair, it grabs their attention. I still stare and marvel at women with natural hair and the really “dope” styles they wear. I have not only been inspired but I have inspired other young ladies to go back to their roots. Some of us are really tired of those straight hairs and split ends. Natural hair is definitely coming back one “big chop” at a time.