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Could your relationship use a boost ? by MARK WEBB
Mark Webb is a licensed marriage and family therapist in private practice at Oakwood Counseling Center in Valdosta . He is the author of “ How To Be A Great Partner ” and “ How To Argueproof Your Relationship .” Read more of his articles at www . TheRelationshipSpecialist . com .
7 secrets for keeping your relationship on track
“ There is only one happiness in this life , to love and be loved .” ~ George Sand
Has your relationship grown stale ? Have the two of you fallen into a daily battle of bickering and arguing ? Are the two of you on the verge of calling it quits ? If so ; implement these relationship basics that are foundational to all positive relationships .
1Acts of kindness and thoughtfulness . Small gestures can make a really big impact on your relationship . Look for ways to surprise your partner such as bringing them their favorite snack or that thing they like that no one else knows about . This says I know you and what you like . If your partner has had a tough day , do something to lighten their load or to comfort them . Do little things on a daily basis to let your partner know you are thinking of them .
2Effective communication . Give your full attention when listening to your partner . Put your phone down and turn off the television . Lean slightly forward , maintain eye contact , and strive to show interest in what they are saying . If you don ’ t understand something they are saying , then ask for clarification .
3Build trust and dependability . Keep your promises . Be honest , truthful , and transparent . Be there for your partner when they need you to be . You want to convey a strong message that you are fully committed to the relationship and that your partner can count on you being there when they need you .
“ And I ’ d choose you ; in a hundred lifetimes , in a hundred worlds , in any version of reality , I ’ d find you , and I ’ d choose you .” ~ Kiersten White
4Have fun and be playful . Keep your sense of humor . Strive to keep your relationship full of fun and laughter . Be silly together . Look for ways to add a sense of adventure to your relationship . This could include things like traveling to new places or developing hobbies and interests that you can share together .
5Make sure you have quality time together . This can be regular date nights and shared hobbies . Make sure that this doesn ’ t get one-sided ; meaning , don ’ t let the responsibility of the planning fall onto only one of you . Do not just engage in your hobby , make
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