Urban Grandstand Digital Issue 9 | Page 10

a similar situation as me. I wish I had the help when I was going through it. It’s a tough situation, but I’m not the first woman to go through it, and I won’t be the last until society changes. I don’t know if it ever will. I was just trying to help someone else out by using my story to give them a boost and let them know you can get through anything. business, so to speak. They are not affected in that way. They are big kids, and they do see television. They do ask questions, although Basketball Wives isn’t a show that I allow them to watch. It didn’t hurt them. They like the spotlight, and they had a good time. Urban Grandstand Digital: I think visibly, people saw that you weren’t Urban Grandstand Digital: I think involved in every episode. Was that that’s true, and it’s good. A lot of intentional, or how did it play out repeople appreciate the way you were garding your involvement. able to let people into your life and allow them to see your truth, regard- Patrice Curry: When I started filmless of what it was. The fact that you ing, I was supposed to be a full time opened up and shared about the infi- cast member, and as it went on, my delity was major. How difficult was it husband decided he didn’t want to for you to share it? do anymore. The show didn’t want me without him, so that’s how that Patrice Curry: You know, at this stage worked out. I guess had I been more in my life it wasn’t difficult to share active, and more troublesome mayit at all. There were times that I was be, they would have felt differently. I filming and talking to the girls about feel like I’ve come a long way in life. things, and of course this was cut I used to be a hot head, and I have out, but there were times that I was worked hard to balance the out. I crying in my talks, or feeling my pain didn’t feel the need to go back. I on some levels and thinking of where didn’t really have anyone coming at I had come from and where I was. It me for it to be an issue. It’s hard to has its ups and downs, but I knew I fight when there’s no-one fighting was using it to give God the glory and with you. I would have loved to be not just to get fame out of it. If some- on longer to share more, because it’s one can take from what I was saying a lot left out, but it is what it is. and use it to get to the next level, that was my objective. I had a good Urban Grandstand Digital: I think a response from people, and I feel like lot of people appreciate the direcI did that. Even if it only touched one tion you came from. I know you’ve person, one is more than none. seen reality television, and you knew of BBW prior. The drama obviously Urban Grandstand Digital: I would sells, and a lot of people like it, but think it was equally as difficult bring there’s an equal amount of peopl e the kids into the light, especially con- who want to see more than that. sider Eddie’s son who was obvious- They want to see people capitalize ly conceived through the infidelity. the way they should, go to the next How do you feel this has affected level, and build their brands. You’re him, and most importantly, do you showing people there’s more to rethink that it has helped in any way? ality TV and they’ve been able to see your true life. Patrice Curry: The kids weren’t around during the filming process Patrice Curry: Oh, well that’s good. much of the time. That part was I’m glad to hear that. I was a little showing that we are still a family. It worried. Thing would come across in was more fun stuff for them. They how I was perceived. I know it’s not don’t deal with adult issues. We try for everybody. I am in no way proto keep them out of grown folk’s moting that if you’re being cheated on, staying in that relationship and working it out. That’s not what I’m saying, but we were both very young. We were both growing and learning. He was fresh out of high school and into the league. You can’t hold people hostage by their past when they have asked for forgiveness, and they are changed and being a better person. We had a lot of rocky times but we persevered. We got through it, and there were times I hated him and wasn’t bothered with him. We weren’t together going strong the entire time. I hope it didn’t come off the I was just at home twittling my thumbs while he did his thing. It was never that, but the heart wants what it wants. I believe that the fact I had children with this man meant I at least needed to put forth the effort to try and keep them as one, and keep us together. I don’t take marriage lightly. I tried to do what I could do and fight through it. If he were still the same, it would be a different story that you saw. Urban Grandstand Digital: Now in terms of the show, do you see yourself returning since it has been renewed? Patrice Curry: I’m not coming back. He definitely does not want to return and I have to respect that. They don’t want me alone, so I won’t be back on the show. I am working on other things. A lot of me got list in the translation as far as the show went. I do a lot of things. I’m a very creative person. I write, and I have a children’s book. I’m currently translating to Spanish so I can market it to the Hispanic community, who has a lot of the same issues as a lot of us, as far as losing a loved one. I’m writing another book, and my husband and I are writing a book together. I had a meeting last week with an entertainment company. We’re working on some TV shows that I’ve written. I’m working on getting things going. I’ve been a mother all this time, and my youngest just started attending school this year. I knew that once